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Is this considered hovering behavior?

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#1 Jun 20 - 7PM
baddream
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Is this considered hovering behavior?

I have not had any contact with N for over a year, and then today, out of the blue, my son had 2 emails from my ex-N (he is not his father, but was friendly with him back when we were still in a relationship)

The e-mails were just the pass along funnies type, but I am wondering why he is doing this. He must know my son would tell me or forward it to me.

I find it odd that on Father's Day he sends this to my kid. Is he trying to get to me or measure my response?

How weird.

Jun 21 - 9AM
AnotherPath
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They use children to hoover

They use children to hoover all the time. So it looks like they haven't contacted you directly. Typical narc. They use everyone and everything.

Ending the dance

Jun 21 - 8AM
Scoop
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Definatly a hover attempt ..

Definatly a hover attempt .. the thing is narcs like to test the water especaily if its been a while , they hover just under the radar .. like a rabbit sniffing the air for danger . Scoop x
Jun 21 - 10AM (Reply to #2)
baddream
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Yes, that's it Scoop

When he does this I can feel it. My son forwarded the e-mails to me and the hair on my arms stood up. He hasn't done in a while, but last year he would send him packages to get me to soften up, and then slowly, very slowly he would work his way back. Unfortunately, the effect of these seemingly "innoculous" little e-mails was that I was up for half the night, thinking about him, what he did, and reliving the nightmare. yes, he is gone.. but not forgotten-- and he seems to want to make sure of that.
Jun 21 - 10AM (Reply to #3)
Lisa E. Scott
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Yes, it's hovering!

Most definitely. Yes, they use children or anyone they can to get to you. People are nothing but pawns to them.