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#1 May 20 - 2PM
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Fuming

I am fuming , im writing on here to stop me going round to ex wank face narc to do him an injury .
His best friend has some things in my house as he use to live here he also still has the key and he came to pick them up as i am moving . On his way here he called to say if it was ok to come round , i asked who he has with him and he said "no one " then he told me he had his friend jonny with him and then he fessed up and said he had the narc with him .I paniced and bolted round my mums . The narc was in my house !!! talk about crossing boundrys i felt sick all afternoon and now i am just flamming fuming . There is a cd that has been left called "ed and his dead mother" its a film , why is it sitting there , was it left by him ? He has also gone round and turned of all the plugs that i some times leave on (shoot me ) it use to piss him off that i wasted energy .God im pissed off .The key was left thank god ... I know that he wants to see me . he has done the hovering trick 6 times now and this is how he goes about it , he orcastrates chance meetings . He would never pick up the phone because that would be giving me power . i f*cking hate the f*ucker.
Scoop x

May 27 - 1PM
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Barbara

Right somethings going down here and its sneeky . I was picking my friends girl up from school today and i went to cross the road with her and his best friend car was at the lights with him sitting next to him . He knows that on thursdays i do this and he knows the route i go as i have told him . This was the compleat wrong end of town for him . I cant think of reason he would be there . It could have been coincidence . hmmm I know that i went into shock and started to shake , i pretended that i didnt see him although a fool would know i did . I just shook from head to toe and it took me a long time to calm down , and then i was just really angry ...again ...The trouble is if he is stalking me what the hell can i do about it , what if he isnt , I have no proof . It doesnt feel like the thing he would do , all his contact with me has been though friends . He is the hover king as we know , this time he has been compleatly ignored which i never really done before for so long and blatintly .What do you recon on this ?
May 27 - 2PM (Reply to #22)
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Scoop

be glad he knows you saw him - now he's on notice sounds like stalking change your routine - especially your Thursday routine and observe what happens somethings up - you will catch him then you can get the police on his sorry a** ~~~~~~~~~ Moving Forward: Coaching for Victims Pathologicals Feelings buried alive never die. - Alice Miller
May 23 - 2PM
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these bastards have no boundaries......

what's theirs is theirs....and and what's ours is theirs too.........i agree with quietude.....change the locks.... he would have no qualms about making himself a key.......NONE....... “I do not bring forgiveness with me, nor forgetfulness. The only ones who can forgive are dead; the living have no right to forget." - Chaim Herzog
May 20 - 2PM
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scoop

scoop hon, CHANGE-YOUR-LOCKS NOW!!! Just because he left the key, doesn't mean there isn't a copy! Yes, typical N...they plow through our lives without a care...during, after...no matter to them. We are still their property, so they can do with their property whatever they please. BUT, we can stop their nonsense to the best of our abilities by taking precautions. I would scare the PISS out of the 'best friend' by informing him that he did NOT have your permission to bring N into your home, and you will seek legal action against him if he ever pulls anything stupid again. Then BLOCK EVERY connection to BOTH of them.
May 23 - 2PM (Reply to #9)
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yup, change the locks!

Sfter he moved out I changed the locks even though he left the keys, I didnt trust he didnt make a copy. When I told him I had changed the lock, the look on his face was surprised and strange like he didnt expect me to do that...but I did and I felt alot better when I was outta the house!! So YES CHANGE THOSE LOCKS!!!!! smileyfacepr

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May 23 - 4PM (Reply to #14)
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smileyfacepr

WHY DID YOU TELL HIM YOU CHANGED THE LOCKS? ~~~~~~~~~ Moving Forward: Coaching for Victims Pathologicals Feelings buried alive never die. - Alice Miller
May 23 - 6PM (Reply to #15)
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BARBARA

Hi Barbara... I told him that I changed the locks because after he left me..I still stupidly continued to c him for another 7 mnths..hopeing that we could work things out not seeing still what a piece of crap he was and again giving him the benefit of the doubt. So he would still spend 4 days outta the wk w/me. One day we got to the door and he noticed it was a different lock..he said u changed the lock and I said yes, he was surprised..he said y did u do that? there was nothing wrong w/the lock and I told him I felt better changing it and that was the end of that conversation. smileyfacepr

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May 23 - 6PM (Reply to #16)
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smileyfacepr

Ok phew hoped it wasn't a "neener neener" moment. ~~~~~~~~ Moving Forward: Coaching for Victims Pathologicals Feelings buried alive never die. - Alice Miller
May 25 - 3PM (Reply to #17)
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BARBARA

LMAO..what is a "neener neener" moment?? Is that like "uhhhh duhhhh"???? smileyfacepr

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May 25 - 4PM (Reply to #18)
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smileyfacepr

you know when little kids taunt each other? "you stink -- neener neener" ~~~~~~~~~ Moving Forward: Coaching for Victims Pathologicals Feelings buried alive never die. - Alice Miller
May 27 - 12AM (Reply to #19)
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Barabara

LMAO...no..no neener neener moment!!

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May 23 - 3PM (Reply to #10)
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smileyface

I got a new lock . I was thinking weather he would have got a key cut and my gut says no , although he has come to the house unanounced he wouldnt get a key cut as it would cost too much . He couldnt get in to my bedroom as i have two big bolts on the door which where put on after the rape . Scoop x
May 23 - 3PM (Reply to #11)
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scoop

Scoop a copy of a key costs $1.oo anywhere..change the locks it will gibe u peace of mind..u should not have to live w/that anxiety if hes coming in or not even if ur locked in ur bedroom. Changing a lock is easy u can do it urself. Im so sorry to hear u were raped..I did not know..u will be in my prayers!! But do this for urself, dont try to figure out what he will and will not do..we just do not know what they r capable of...just change the locks!! smileyfacepr

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May 23 - 3PM (Reply to #12)
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smileyface

I have changed the locks .. to get a key cut in England is 4 pounds or more , its such a rip off .. I did touch lightly on the rape in my story , . It was a very dark time and to make matters werse i met the psycopath 6 months after.. Cheers God ... but he never gives you more than you can handle . I have a therapist who is excelent at counciling the aftermath of rape , I feel 100% safe with her , she is however not so hot on the narc stuff but i am giving her an education I hope . Big love Scoop x
May 23 - 4PM (Reply to #13)
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Scoop

So Glad u changed the locks..yayyy!!! I have not been able to read everyones story and have not told mine completely but they r all so similar in one way or another. Im glad ur seeing a proffessional I could not imagine going thru what u have gone thru. U r in my prayers for healing quickly! Lots of Love and Hugs ur way!! smileyfacepr

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May 20 - 2PM
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I dont feel strong enough

I dont feel strong enough yet if he starts to hover me , im so scared of him and the power he has over me , i wish he would just go away and leave me alone , i never told him i was going no contact , if i write to him to tell him to leave me alone that would keep him away . He NEVER LEAVES THE RADAR he is always there !!!!!Sorry to freak out like this but what the hell do i do ?
May 20 - 7PM (Reply to #4)
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Scoop

change your locks NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!! THIS INSTANT!!!! and go NC on that "friend" - some friggin' friend - should KNOW better!!!! You should have told that friend NO WAY with NARC with him. NO FUCKING WAY. you might need to change your phone number now that wankface was in your home... did he use your computer while there? are you sure?? would he or that friend know how to put monitoring software on it?? ~~~~~~~~~ Moving Forward: Coaching for Victims Pathologicals Feelings buried alive never die. - Alice Miller
May 21 - 2AM (Reply to #5)
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When i left i took my

When i left i took my computer with me , luckly it was instinctual .I know he could have very easily use my computer and would know how to put monitoring software on .I am moving out of my house in less than two weeks and i have locks that i dont use which i will now . I am going to change my number , i kicked myself as my new address details where on the coffee table which i was hoping to keep secret .I just paniced when i heared they where on the way here i didnt know how far away they where so i just ran , in hindsight i should have told them to not come but my brain didnt work . He does see me as his property , i have never said no to him before like this , i get the sence that he is starting to panic that i really mean it . This makes me worry . Scoop x
May 21 - 6AM (Reply to #6)
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Scoop

CHANGE YOUR LOCKS NOW ~~~~~~~~~ Moving Forward: Coaching for Victims Pathologicals Feelings buried alive never die. - Alice Miller
May 21 - 8AM (Reply to #7)
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I hear you my house mate has

I hear you my house mate has got new locks and he is fitting them after work .
May 20 - 2PM (Reply to #2)
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The trouble is if i tell him

The trouble is if i tell him to leave me alone he would just say "i am leaving you alone i just was helping my mate to move his stuff " but i know what he is doing . Its so creepy there was the beer cans out side my mums and mine house a few weeks ago and also he got his friends to invite me out to events that he was at , i know what he is doing but there is no proof .Also i know that contacting him is breaking no contact .. sorry for three post im thinking on my feet .
May 20 - 7PM (Reply to #3)
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Nope

don't tell him or anyone else a thing CHANGE YOUR LOCKS NOW!!! scan your computer thoroughly change your phone number NOW!!! and that 'friend'? well that's NO FRIEND ANYMORE ~~~~~~~~~ Moving Forward: Coaching for Victims Pathologicals Feelings buried alive never die. - Alice Miller