I Have a question about players ... Say a guy in his mid 20's, is single , possibly very burnt from a previous relationship and Just doesn't want to enter into a relationship because he's not sure what he wants - Could be also due to having a busy career and doesn't want the commitment or to stick with one woman untill he's found "the one" ... but still plays the field with no strings sex , as a single man - with various women - Does this make him a potential narcissist? My friend was seeing a bloke who i considered a player , but she's slept with him a few times and is falling for him - He used to call and see her at stupid times of the night and drive to see her over an hour away , theyre both night owls anyway! He resonds to her texts , but will sometimes keep her hanging - Then just pop up out of nowhere ... But what I want to know is , Is he really a bad person for being young free and single? she asked him if he was seeing other people beside her and he told her no , and i've seen photo's of him with his ex girlfriend in some lushious romantic resort that looks like he is capable of loving !! Seems to have a good heart , but is very emotionally closed and pulls back if he gets close to her? It's so confusing!! She met him on a dating site btw , and i noticed a few red flags from the experience of my ex narc relationship ... but is there a possibility his confusing actions could change? I'm becoming more and more aware of how many emotionally unbalanced men there are out there!
not sure if he's a Narc but he's DEFINITELY a Romantic Predator. the calls at wierd hours is a HUGE red flag - he's using sex to bond her to him. Tell her to get out now before it's too late.
Get her HOW TO SPOT A DANGEROUS MAN by Sandra Brown, MA
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Hmmm I just googled "romantic predator" and thier's alot that comes up with "sociopath" .. Alarmingly I saw his status one time which said " I wish I had the ability to feel what love is again , I miss it :( " He seems to fit alot of criteria especially being able to love ... but would a true sociopath really admit that? or could his acting skill's be coming into play .... Lol
Oh, please, a status like that is to lure supply... oh, poor thing wants to feel what love is, let me show you!!
Everything they say, good or bad, is for effect.
I guess the question is, why are you obsessed with this? You sound like you're the one dating him (or the one not dating him as it seems with your friend). You know enough to know he's no good. Who cares what it's called? He calls her up for sex and she gives it to him. There's plenty of guys who would take advantage of that, sociopath or player. Tell her to use her brain. If she doesn't, then stop concerning yourself about it, and eventually she'll get sick of it.
On the point of this "maybe he's just young and immature" thinking, maybe he is, but he clearly doesn't respect your friend, and if he does grow up he will drop her and have a relationship with someone else. It's toxic thinking for your friend to think he will "grow up" and start treating her differently.
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I did wonder myself if this was an attention seeking status , But i'm certainly not the one dating him Lol .. I just wondered if there's a fine line between a player and a narcissist through what i had been through with my ex narcissist - Because he doesn't seem quite as bad as mine was but i guess the degree's vary by many - but he defo has toxic tendancies .. My other friend has tried talking to her too , she's quite clued up in the whole psychology world and she was the only one that understood narcissism out of my personal friends and was telling me to get out of that relationship for a good 8 months ... So yeah just wondered that was all , i'm not ready for any relationships yet anyway , casual dates yeah possibly ... But nothing full blown , I still have soul searching to do x
Also , I was looking at the list of different players there are , he seems to me like a bodysurfer!! But arn't most males in thier 20's? However she is already attached to him now , i think the inconsistancy is game playing , cropping up when unexpected to keep plate spinning!
http://abusesanctuary.blogspot.com/2009/02/romantic-sociopath.html
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Moving Forward: Coaching for Victims Pathologicals
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Thanks barbara , He's a confusing one! I'm usually quite good at advising my pals but even I can't work this one out ! I have said if he's not consistant enough move on from him and you deserve more , But I wondered about the narc bit also because he's a model and does some acting ... But I can't work out if he's a player or just a crappy bloke in his 20's that is rubbish at responding to people via text due to his busy work! ... That's the only reason they could have bonded - through sex , because they have never been on any dates , however he hasn't just took off and left straight after coming at stupid o'clock either , sometimes he has slept through the next day with her cuddling on 3 occasions .. but i suppose as he lives an hour away he would ... maybe he's just out what he can get untill he decides what he wants .. i'm just very weary of men at the minute!
I was a working actor for many years - doesn't make one a Narcissist. But his behavior is TOXIC for sure
don't make excuses for this predator - no dates? what is she to him - a free whore? That's crap - ditch him.
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Moving Forward: Coaching for Victims Pathologicals
Feelings buried alive never die. - Alice Miller
The only "date" they had was when she asked him to come round for a few drinks one time , which he did ... they chatted for a few hours had some bevvies and then went to bed .... not exactly your ideal scenario is it? :/ .. I'll give her another talking to , my inner voice is saying something isn't right ... I'm doing alot of soul searching after my ex narc.
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