seeingthelight's story
seeingthelight's story
Hi,
am new to this site but have found it after a sinking feeling that has finally made me reach rock bottom but has been building over the last 10 or 11 months. I got together with my ex and after a whirlwind romance where he moved in, lavished me with gifts and amazing gestures that finally culminated in an engagement, my family and friends loved him and I finally felt after years of being with the 'wrong' kind of men I thought I had landed on my feet.
Quickly after our engagement he began to withdraw from me. I suffer from time to time with depression and I noticed that it was beginning to become more prominent. He had more nights out with his friends, would ignore me while he was out and one night didn't even come home. I was aware that he had been dating lots of different women before me after coming out of an 8 year relationship (he ended it 4 months before the wedding to the girl.) These girls were still contacting him and he was still responding at least 4 months in to our relationship. Even a woman at work (we work together) had dated him for a while and appeared to be obsessed with him, constantly messaging and cornering him at work functions. This upset me greatly and all he would say is it was my problem and I should let it go, not that it was inappropriate that he was still entertaining her.
It got worse and he withdrew even more to the point where he moved out but quickly came back stating he did want to be with me after all. A family member of his became ill and I dropped everything for him. However my suspicion started to grow, I became paranoid, started to check his phone and didn't like what I found. To cut about 6 months short I found out he had cheated on me but had lied to me about it for a long time, telling me it was all in my head and that I wasn't affectionate enough and made him unhappy, he was also communicating with the work girl on another mobile phone.
I threw him out but since then (7 months) he has not given me a chance to get over it. Constantly texting, calling, turning up at my house. Making promises and then turning immediately nasty within the next breath, telling me its my fault etc etc. A familiar story I'm sure. He turned up drunk and abusive at my house and has been warned by others to leave me alone and still persists.
It is making it impossible for me to move on, I feel emotionally at a really low ebb and cannot seem to get past the hurt and dare I say missing him, as crazy as that sounds!
I can't believe that somebody I loved could treat me so badly. I am finding it hard to accept but have that over all feeling that clearly things were not right from an early stage but I was blinded. This isn't the first time I have been in this situation with a guy and just feel a bit broken with it. I am obviously attracted to narcissists!
Attracted to narcsissts
mjsimp
rings true
Welcome seeingthelight
I am obviously attracted to narcissists...
no contact begins.....hopefully
seeingthelight
Sound advice
they're extremists
lapse in concentration.....
Sweetheart, listen to Barbara and change your number...
harassment
you are far from over him.....
its everything that they
Hey wounded soul, thank you
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