ANYTIME you do ANYTHING for a Narc...they see it as a sign of weakness.....i swear that if the psychonarc asked me to pass the salt and i passed it to him without also plunging a salad fork into his eye....he thought it meant i was CRAZY about him...toss the key...if you return it, believe me, he'll get the wrong impression......
Think about it this way - you are thinking about it from a normal viewpoint - oh I have his key, it doesn't belong to me and I should return it. If he had your key what would he think and do - he would call you constantly or email you stating he had your key and really would like to return it - he would say please call me - all the while he's thinking in his sick head - oh this is great - another way I can get thru to her and f**k with her mind. If you caved in and met him he would somehow turn the situation around and at the end you would wind up feeling guilty about the nasty things you said because you weren't even grateful that he returned the key - here he is trying to do something nice and you didn't appreciate it. N's don't deserve to be treated like normal human beings. The key is garbage just like him - and what do we do with garbage - we THROW IT OUT.
Thanks-great way to look at it. It's sad I'm still considerate even though he has treated me like *#it. But you are absolutely correct. He's trash, non-human and evil.
It is so unfair and messed up. After I moved out I wanted to "work through our issues" even after his horribly cruel behavior (cheating, lies, disrespect...sprinkled in with the funny charming guy). That was September - December. I was so brainwashed. Wow, what was I thinking? Was this me? After sending me the lyrics to the Bob Dylan song "Missing" the same day I went to see him - he told me "it was over forever, he was sleeping with a new girl, and that he was moving on". Devestated, I waited for him to WAKE UP and be himself again, I thought he would always love me. Since reading more about narcissists I tossed the key and is favorite sweatshirt. It is so hard and will take a long time -but do "the next right thing" for yourself.
Peace. J
toss it......
Good point. Thanks for all
Throw it away!!
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