Avoiding

I have a question for the mods and anyone that's experienced this or any advice.

I have been avoiding places the XNH I used to frequent together, or places that he shops. Is this normal? I'm 9.5 months post D&D, 3 months divorced. My therapist said that there is no "normal" protocol for this, she said to do what I need to do and when I'm ready to go to the places we used to go together or shops I know he visits, I know.

I've been second guessing this, I feel like it's not healthy, but at the same time I know if I saw him out in public or even with OW that I would probably get shaky, as that's what happened three months ago during divorce mediation. I feel like I'm not ready but I'm also letting him have control over me this way.

Thanks again for all my questions.