What is normal?

I'm new here, but I had a situation yesterday that boggles my mind. Here goes…
For about a week now things have been going really well here at home. Made me wonder if he was changing, lol. Anyway, yesterday morning the alarm went off and I laid there a few minutes as usual and my husband (of 32 yrs) decides it's a good time to play, so okay for a few minutes. He's holding me and won't let me go until I say "the magic word." I have no idea what that is. After a while, trying to guess this word, I start feeling panicky. This has never happened to me before. I knew I didn't like to be held down or bound in any way, but I was beginning to feel very anxious. After asking him to let me go please, several times, I finally said, "this is not fun!" Well, he repeated it, let me go, then stormed out of the room. I got up and got ready for work. Long story short, he brooded all day. He wasn't fun to me, He made me anxious, etc, etc. I was going stupid and I am a "piece of work."
Am I wrong, or would a normal person have said, "Oh honey, I'm sorry, what's wrong?" "I didn't mean to make you feel that way." or something like that? I'm just asking because I've been in this a long time and I'm just trying to get a feel of what is normal.