1. Home
  2. Forums
  3. Narcissist Forums
  4. The Path Forward Forum
  5. Atheist

Atheist

6 posts / 0 new
Last post
#1 Mar 13 - 6PM
loveofmylife
loveofmylife's picture

Atheist

One more question to see if anyone has a similar experience.
My N knew that I was a christian from the time he met me 20 years ago.
He listened very quietly whenever this subject came up and really didn't share very much of his viewpoint. He just said that he grew up in church and nothing else. (part of the secret thing - keeping quiet so that we would align better)
Well, when I started finding him out a few months ago (how he directly lied to my face numerous time and was seeing about 7 woman simultaneoulsy)...he started devaluing me and pushing me apart because "I got smart on him".
Part of this was to tell me that things could never work between us because he is an atheist and his children never went to church. He then proceeded to tell me with pride that because of his intelligence he is an atheist (we have the same level of education, but I have always believe in God and Jesus)
He put me down by saying that I believe in fantasy, that I don't know what reality is, and that he doesn't believe in wishful thinking.
Spent probably a full hour trashing my faith, saying that here was no logic to support it, I must be delirious, blah, blah, blah I just listened in shock. (I never judged him because of his faith or lack thereof)
I have never in my life had someone put me down because of my religion....and imagine my shock when the one person who did that was the one I thought I was closest to and the one who cared for me the most.

Mar 15 - 7PM
itreallyisabouthim
itreallyisabouthim's picture

Yeah I can see the religious

Yeah I can see the religious thing going either way. One of my family members is an atheist and he is one of the most principled people I know, and the most serene as well. And of course people who declare themselves religious can be a mess behind the scenes...
Mar 15 - 5PM
narcnarcwhosthere (not verified)
Anonymous's picture

total atheist.....

total atheist..would laugh at religion..any religion..but when he had nowhere else to go, he would stroll into an AA hall, become extremely pious, and within minutes have someone there take him and provide him with food and shelter....a total infidel.....
Mar 13 - 7PM
Barbara (not verified)
Anonymous's picture

of course he is

of course he's an atheist... he IS GOD!!! many N/Ps cover their sickness with religious-ness as well. It's always extreme with them. Psycho-Boy is the best Jew on the planet... cough, cough, cough ~~~~~~~~~ The world is a dangerous place, not only because of those who do evil, but because of those who look on and do nothing. - Albert Einstein Visit My Info. Website for Abuse Victims
Mar 13 - 8PM
notadoormat
notadoormat's picture

Mine always had a problem

Mine always had a problem with organized religion too. He was in the Navy and saw the birthplace of Christ and it was too commercialized to be real - blah blah blah. Also said that he had problems with the fact that I wanted to have the children baptized and actually tried to stop me from it. My counselor told me - Why would he want to particpate in that or attend church when he is "God"? Case in point.
Mar 15 - 3PM (Reply to #2)
TexN (not verified)
Anonymous's picture

ExN refused baptism

For our daughter. He said he did not want her baptised into the Catholic church, that she needed to be Baptist like him. The fool didn't even go to church, much less belong to a church! I had dd baptised during one of his "I have to work this weekend so I won't be coming home" weekends. Fool never even realized it or ever brought it up again...The honest truth is, he didn't really care either way...