LIST OF THINGS TO REMEMBER

I've been stuck off and on in obsessive thinking since I hear the N is engaged. My whiney self obsesses over this love the new OW is getting, blah blah blah . . . That is when I have talk and be firm with myself . . . . Did a new list of things to remember and boy did it help. For some reason, was able to remove my feelings from it and just read about all the abuse.

I have no reason to believe he'll change. As Goldie says -- liers lie and cheaters, cheat, etc. I have also heard that the best predictor of future behavior is looking at past behavior. More importantly, why did I let it happen for so long! I also read an older post of Goldies about how we teach people to treat us. Very empowering.

My point . . . if you haven't done your list, it will help. I am still reading, reading, reading, . . . Like many of us, I am so grateful for this website. I have to go through the grief, etc., but I see light at the end of the tunnel and I see a way to a better life. Don't we all wish it could happen faster! :)

I want to take this experience and use it as a way to learn not to allow abuse again. We are not at the mercy of others cruel behavior. We decide what we allow into our life. A message I really need to learn.

Thank you Lisa. Thank you Goldie. Thank you everyone else on here. I love that we all can help each other. I love that there is a safe place to go after dealing with these disordered people. Love to you all. For today, I am going to try to stay in the thought that I am taking back my life!