advice
advice
Through all of this drama that i'm going through, i'm learning to reach out. So i'm asking for advice in this topic. (and i'm not apologizing for it!); I must say it does make for a good laugh...i'm interested to hear your thoughts....
what do you make of this:
today i talked to my attorney who is beginning to see the N for who he really is (thank God). I told him my cell phone that n primarily reaches me at is ending it's contract and i will not be renewing it. How did he want me to handle this. He took my 2 other phone numbers (which n has and has had) and faxed them immediately to n's attorney so that n cannot say he has no way of contacting me about our daughter. But my lawyer wanted me to contact him and let him know of the phone # situation.
Shortly after the meeting, i received a call from a friend at work (I'm not there this week - not information that was necessary to share with n boy). She said "he just called here and i told him you weren't here and asked if i could take a message and he said 'no that's all i need thank you that's all i wanted to know' (her words)
Well i called using my new cell phone with a restricted number (i swear i wasn't trying to make him mad). it was stupid of me to use that phone but again it's a restricted number. This is the conversation:
Me: it's me
N: why are you calling me from a private number?
Me: no answer
N: oh (ha ha ha ha)you got yourself a phone and you're keeping it a secret from me; I see: I see (ha ha ha ha)
Me: well, I was calling to let you know that the numbers you can reach me at are work and home.
N: Why won't you let me call your cell phone
Me: because you harass me (this,I know, was stupid)
N: Oh (ha ha ha ha) I harass you. wow! i harass you (ha ha ha ha)
Me: I also wanted to let you know about (daughter's name)'s safety town.
N: (interrupting) I know....
(please be aware that i had signed her up exactly 30 minutes before calling him)
Me: She's...
N: i know
Me: in the...
N: yea I know..
Me: red group
N: yea, i know i'm working at it
Me: ok well it's (dates, times)
N: yea, iknow
Me: so you'll take her the nights you have her
N:so what if i need to get a hold of you
Me: call work or home
N: what if I can't get a hold of you?
Me: leave a message
N: what if it's important?
Me: leave a message. why didn't you leave a message with the girl at work today?
N: how did you know i called your work?
Me: they called me to let me know
N: well i'm glad we've all graduated from the third grade
Me: she's my friend...
N: ok so how do i get your phone number? do i call my lawyer to call your lawyer? how does that work? communication is going to be really hard now
Me: call work or home and leave a message i will get back with you
Me: hang up
ok i'm feeling small victories at this point.
Not so fast....here comes another round....
he texted me to that restricted number "do you want to have drinks later" wants me to reply so he definitely has the number. I don't reply. 5 hrs later he calls and leaves a voice mail, "oh uh cool uh this is __; just calling to see if this is your new number so great! Uh call me if you have any ?'s about (daughter).
Your need to have contact
Thanks. Ill take this
http://hubpages.com/hub/Married-to-a-Narcissist?preview
nolongercontrolled
oy vey
Thanks everyone! It does
http://hubpages.com/hub/Married-to-a-Narcissist?preview
nolongercontrolled
yes
Ok thanks. I did get a new
http://hubpages.com/hub/Married-to-a-Narcissist?preview
nolongercontrolled
Grossot
Grossot
grossot
Good for you!