When they 'come back' looking for support
When they 'come back' looking for support
I recently was contacted by one of my ex N (I also had a 'relationship' with exPschopathN that was even worse)
He had a death in the family, and contacted me for 'support' and that it could be 'theraputic' for him and I to get together.
So here I go, thinking innocently enough that it would be 'okay' to get together, to hear of his distress, to help him put things in perspective, and to be a good friend.
Wrong. When I go there, the insults, criticism, all started all over again. All the red flags...It has been years since we have gotten together...
Now he is saying he wants to 'have a date' and do it right..
I felt so drained, depressed, like he literally sucked the life and inspiration out of me.
They never do change. It is very sad and dangerous to revisit these people, no matter what their plea is.
I wanted to be a good friend, it seems somehow wrong not to be there for them in this sort of time, loss of a family member.
However they don't seem to relate eye to eye like most normal people, they just don't, and they do not mature or grow up. It is very sad.
Now I feel like I have lost all my energy, it is like I feel paralyzed.
I am usually full of energy and happy, and now I can barely move, it is like I lost all my personal power or something.
Have any of you encountered this?
What do you do to get your life back....I really feel so down and depressed, and like no motivation just all of a sudden, like a major chemical change took place in my body or something! Coffee doesn't help!
Thank you for your help, and support, I appreciate it!!
AND WHAT THEY SAY, NOT WHAT IS MEANT!!
Thank you guys for the kind
Curious as to why you haven't
Two years ago my sister
Unbelievable fefe65...these were they guys we loved???
I am so sorry to hear this!
Oh my goodness FeFe, I am
It is a waste of time trying
SunshineandLight,,are you kidding, exN was that insensitive!!
Yes, Amazed, I'm ashamed to
Amazed
Something similar happened to
Shock and awe.some, wow, you were just being a good friend!!
I just wanted to add a
Hi Amazed. "I cannot believe
Not "Support" Only SUPPLY!
Quixotic, you are brilliant!! Thank you for perspective
It's mind over matter, my dear Amazed!
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"Soldier, don't confuse your rank with MY authority!"
NoNarcingZone--you are right on my friend!!
I know how you feel..
Spective, I share the same shock as you about the N..
Amazed
Talktothehand, yes, you called it right.
Refuse to be used
Exactly
Thank you for your support Goldie!