Confused??

I am so confused/cautionous about actions taken by my narc boyfriend over the weekend. I don't know what to make of it. While a part of me feels like a weight has been lifted there is a part of me that is very very cautions and it having a hard time believing it and letting go. My narc boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for over 3 years now. And here recently we have been fighting over everything. Nothing I do is ever what he wants, he's very controlling. Since he doesn't have a job nor anyway to support or take care of himself or a place to live either. I have been doing what I can to make sure he has something. Well this weekend I maxed out my last credit card for him and realization hit me..."What the hell am I doing!!" I have allowed this individual to place me in a horrible financial situation to not only care for him but his children too. Well yesterday, he starts telling me that he no longer wants to be with me. That I will be better off without him and that I would be able to focus on myself and not have him as a burden. That in the long run I will see that he is right and that my life would be better with him not being in it. He is very animate about us not being together because he knows that he is a financial burden on me. However, he still goes on to say that the only way to fix these issues would be for me to cash out my retirement and that we could move back to WA (where his kids are). So I really don't understand what he is trying to do. He keeps flip flopping all over the place. He wants to hold on to me but then he doesn't. I can understand him wanting to hold on to me because I provide him with stability. I am very confused by all this. I want to believe that he is being true in that he sees what he is doing to me financially, emotionally and physically. I am trying to be prepared for what he is going to throw at me next. As much as it hurts (I do love him) I want this to be true but I feel like I am going to be in for a long road and this is just smoke and mirrors. Any insight would be great.