My Narc wants to Apologize Face to Face
My Narc wants to Apologize Face to Face
I spent 9 months in counseling recovering from a 12 year relationship with a narc. We divorced over a year ago and now he has contacted me through email wanting to make amends. He refuses to believe he is a narc (of course), and has been going to sexaholics anonymous 12 step meetings (that's a whole other story). He is apparently on to step number 9,"Make direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others." I guess I'm step number 9, which angers me so much (yet another piece of the puzzle to fix HIS life with no consideration of how it affects mine). I went back to my same counselor I was seeing previously (who was also our marriage counselor until Mr. Narc quit) and she gave me these 3 options.
1) Do nothing
2) Meet with him (in counselor's office), hear the apology, make no response, end the session, leaving him completely alone
3) Tell him I don't need an apology, but he should make one to our dogs (which he left and haven't seen since)
Option 1 he would use to make himself the victim yet again.
Option 2 would take complete power away from him, but I'd still get to hear the BS come out of his mouth. I will have a very hard time keeping my mouth shut and my eyes from not rolling into the back of my head.
Option 3 would catch him off guard and he'd have to come up with something on the spur of the moment, instead of something rehearsed, which is what option 2 will be, rehearsed, fake, just a check mark on a list.
Does anyone have anything to add? I'm leaning towards option 2, but I feel like there needs to be more, but that might be me just playing into his narcissistic mind games.
What's in it for you? How
your narc wants to see your face
Option number one, and why do
It's bullshit, trust me, sex
My experience with "apologies"....
From my observations on here
personally
Pearl, this is so definitive
My counselor has never told
Littlebird
There should only be one
Little Bird
Hmm
A year out
It's
IB
LB
You asked a question and
My 2 cents
He wants to tell you in
History
And the thing is....you know
little bird
I agree totally with these
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God sometimes removes a person from your life for your protection. Don't run after them.
Little Bird
Stay NC and find a therapist
Read option #1 again.
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