In following B's post, I too have a problem.
In following B's post, I too have a problem.
So I too have stumbled upon a man that I feel I'm going to have to send to pasture. It's funny because as b explains it, it doesn't start out that way, but then slowly the anxiety and the bad gut feeling start. So it's not like I was attracted to someone who was negligent or self centerd, on the contrary actually. But what happens is that when the red flags start to pop up, I've already fallen a bit and the truth is that I simply have trouble detaching. Why? I don't know. I'm not afraid to be alone once I'm alone but for whatever reason, I don't like endings. Can someone helpe figure out where that kind of feeling comes from? I used to think it was that whole comfort zone phenomena that made me attracted to assholes, but i don't think that's the deepest issue because im not consciously attracted to men who are negligent. For example, if I can see that a guy is a jerk when I meet him then I'm turned off, but I seem to be vulnerable to the ones who put on the disguise and when the red flags start popping up then the real problem happens. I have trouble saying goodbye. I mean, I can do it, i can let go, ive done it a few times already since x psycho. Nobody is ever going to hurt me again like he did. Nobody will ever get that chance. But like b, I also want to be repulsed and disgusted when the red flags pop up. It seems it's easy to be disgusted if I havnt started to fall, but once I start to fall its really hard to step back. Any thoughts? I'm egoless For advice and can tolerate the beatings so please give it to me straight. Again, I'm going through the motions in weeding out these kinds of characters but it's very hard to let go. Isn't that sick? Makes me sick really.
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