lengths of relationships

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#1 Feb 12 - 10AM
BEC
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lengths of relationships

Maybe a silly question, but can someone answer why some relationships last longer than others ? I left a marriage of 17 years because I got sucked in by a narcissist. Over the top fun, pretty, etc. Ironically, she always told me, " she never wanted to date a married man."
Truthfully it was the best time in the whole relationship. Once my separation agreement came through, things started to change. She went from idolizing me to finding faults in almost everything I did. I almost changed every aspect of my life to accommodate her and nothing was ever enough. I was devalued and discarded, but would still take her back in a minute. I miss her terribly. It's very sad. I hear of these relationships that last for a long time. I don't think my girl would have ever gone through with marriage, ever though that was her plan at one time. Are some narcissist content as long as you put up with there crap ? Mine didn't put up with anything. Are there varying degrees ??

Apr 27 - 10PM
roontherocks
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wow It's like a playbook

Apr 20 - 1PM
Domo
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Time

Jul 24 - 7PM
Valentinian
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Man, just read your post

Feb 12 - 8PM
Deidre99
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She sounds like a narcissist,

Feb 13 - 6AM (Reply to #20)
BEC
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Thanks Deidre99 great

Feb 12 - 1PM
femnarc
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depth

Feb 12 - 2PM (Reply to #9)
BEC
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Thanks Femnarc. I just hate

Feb 12 - 3PM (Reply to #17)
josiekl
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It may seem she is having a

Feb 12 - 5PM (Reply to #18)
pumpkinpie
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I agree...it's the same cycle over and over

Feb 12 - 2PM (Reply to #10)
femnarc
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agreed

Feb 12 - 3PM (Reply to #11)
BEC
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Yep. clear as a bell on my

Feb 12 - 6PM (Reply to #15)
Done sourcing
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Look at the actions, all of

Feb 12 - 7PM (Reply to #16)
BEC
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Ex wife

Feb 12 - 3PM (Reply to #12)
femnarc
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sickos

Feb 12 - 5PM (Reply to #14)
pumpkinpie
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"I'd marry you tomorrow"...

Feb 12 - 5PM (Reply to #13)
leslieisback
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It is really hard to believe!

Feb 12 - 10AM
Hunter
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It's about supply!! This is

Feb 12 - 11AM (Reply to #7)
talktothehand
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BEC

Feb 12 - 10AM
thenewjane
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Hi BEC

Jul 19 - 4PM (Reply to #4)
Out Of The Fog
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we ARE all the same!!

Apr 20 - 1PM (Reply to #5)
Domo
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Congrats!

Feb 12 - 11AM (Reply to #3)
IncognitoBurrito
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God

Feb 12 - 10AM (Reply to #2)
BEC
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Thanks so much. great post