Venting
Venting
I just want to say that I have learned so much from all of you, just in the past week that I have been here reading. Such a huge weight has been taken off my shoulders just to know that I am not the only person that has experienced such a man and that there IS support from people who have learned first hand.
I have been divorced from my ex for two years now. I've made alot of progress and feel that lately I am making much more now that I know where to go to find advice.
One thing that is going on with me, that is driving me absolutely crazy is that my ex just got engaged. THAT isn't what bothers me.
The woman that he is engaged to was someone who he was friends with in high school and had kept in touch with him throughout the 20 years we were together. I knew her, she would even come to visit when she was in town.
We live on the east coast. She lives on the west. The two of them have been seeing each other long distance for the past year. (possibly longer but thats as much as I know) He goes there for months at a time (completely ignoring the custody order I might add) and she comes here to visit.
She's a very successful woman. Owns her own health spa, very active in her community, and generally liked by everyone that knows her. Including me.
She is selling her business, leaving all her friends and family, and moving here to marry him.
I'm DYING. I know it shouldn't bother me but it does.
I've had long distance relationships in the past and I know enough to know that no matter how much time you spend talking to the person on the phone and visiting, you never get an accurate idea of what they are really like. Could you imagine how a Narc can completely have someone snowed under those circumstances?!
She's going to give up all she has for him to ruin her life...and I HATE knowing this!! I want so badly to warn her, but I know he has her believing I'm completely crazy. I know she sees him as Gods gift, and I'm sure he's the most charming perfect person in the world right now in her eyes.
I know I can't say anything....it just makes me so sad.
I just needed to get that off my chest. I know there's nothing I can do....
Thanks for listening. And if any of you have ever dealt with this, I'd love to hear your stories.
~Denise~
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