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The Most Hurtful One-liner N Blurted Out - What Was Yours?

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Sep 12 - 3AM
prettypeeved
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Me: "I love you so

Me: "I love you so much." Him: "Well clearly you *don't* because you won't leave your partner." Errr...yeah. That might have had something to do with his total lack of commitment and my sixth sense that something just wasn't right.
Sep 12 - 2AM
ifinallygotit
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it was not the words that hurt

it was his actions he never tried to make me happy and did not care about my life he was quiet and polite and dismissive and neglectful
Sep 17 - 6AM (Reply to #72)
How could I
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only words that hurt

only words that hurt were the lies!!
Sep 12 - 2AM
ifinallygotit
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not saying

I love you without me asking saying I guess I love you I guess you are me GF I guess I miss you How could he not know his own feelings after 12 years?
Sep 12 - 1AM
Sea
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my N is passive-aggressive.

my N is passive-aggressive. the most hurtful ever is: "gf? what gf? so you want to be my gf? haha u are just a friend" yes just a friend in the whole 3 years together and i also know that he tells all his OW that i am just a "work colleague" amazing... from friend to work colleague. so next demotion is ??
Sep 11 - 9PM
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Oh you guys!

Oh oh, ouch, ow...It's almost physically painful to read these. I had to stop I started to hurt so bad. Feel for you all. Mine was completely passive aggressive so I didn't have to go through this kind of blatant abuse. I have to wonder what's worse, someone who drops you from a plane at 35,000 ft. with no warning what so ever or the overtly abusive monsters. Either way is cruel beyond belief. I really can't believe there are so many people like this out there. Yikes!
Sep 11 - 6PM
Hunter
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Tresor

Great thread!! Bottom line!! Do you see a pattern?? Same guy different Body!
Sep 11 - 9PM (Reply to #67)
tresor2
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Pattern

Yes...incredible. I thought evil had only one look and I had the monopoly. It's interesting with these one liners. Most of them provid a great deal of insight into what they are thinking and what they are planning. All of their twisted jabs have significance in terms of what is going on in their twisted minds. I, unfortunately, was not skilled enough to see it because I was too emotionally reactive. The jabs kept me guessing and kept me stuck in misery and dispair. Same guy, different body, it's very clear.
Sep 11 - 6PM
newtothis
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i know this is sad but....

it is too painful to think about all of things things he has said. I will get there! Today isn't a good day!
Sep 11 - 6PM
KeshaN
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i have many "You just don't

i have many "You just don't know what your getting yourself into being with me" "You are just as easy lay" "I don't give a f*ck about you" "Can't no woman hurt me" "your the joke in all of this" "Your a dumb duck" "I love you but i don't like you" "I can replace you easily..I can have any girl i want you should feel lucky that i chose you" -this one is funny to me because after i left him he told me he could never replace me haha "You think you know everything and that your always right" "Why do you think i am such a horrible person!" "You drove me to cheat by not pleasing me" "When will you get that you dont control shit" "You are so disobedient. So i got to the point where i felt like if you aren't going to respect and obey me you were going fear me! bwahhahaha!" "I should have kicked your ass!" "i should have killed you instead of breaking your nose!" "I hope you burn in hell" "I'm tired of reading you dumb theories" "You make everything out of a big deal" After cheating he says "Stop worrying about everyone else and just worry about me and you." also after cheating "If you were doing your job this wouldn't have happened! "i am not benefiting none by being with you so its over!" "no body even likes you ...you make enemies everywhere you go!" Saying this after lying on me to someone "i got so many people in my corner and you have nobody!" "It works for me" after doing something extremely hurtful "im going to prove to you that I am not his horrible person you make me out to be" total bs
Sep 18 - 12PM (Reply to #64)
Scooters Mom
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Oh yes and......

I forgot, He also used to tell me that he needed to eat three times a day! It was my responsibility to make sure he ate three times a day. AND, God forbid he come home and catch me eating while he was gone! Once I ditched a sandwich behind the couch because I heard him coming another time I hid a plate in the oven. When I ditched the sandwich he walked in and asked "what is the dog doing?" Hmm, No clue? I responded. Knowing full well that the dog was eating my sandwich. OHHHHH The Insanity of it all!
Sep 12 - 1AM (Reply to #63)
tresor2
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51/50

This guy is horrible. Sounds like a 51/50 candidate for Nurse Wratchet. I hope you are free and clear of this psycho and can maintain NC. Glad you found this site.
Sep 11 - 11PM (Reply to #62)
HollyAnderson
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Your just another pretty face

Your just another pretty face to me thats all you are bitches aint shit but ho's and tricks oh you thought we were on a date? you don't give me my space Your crazy
Sep 11 - 4PM
onwithmylife
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Tresor

"I never loved you, i just wanted us to get a house together so I could drive you off the cliff and get the house". There is a compassionate, loving man hahahhahhaa.............insanity at its best.Oh i forgot you'"cunt, whore, advertising on craigslist for free sex, first come, first served".. { because i told him I met a man for coffee, when we had broken up and then got back together} \don't you just love how they twist things in their pea brains to make it your fault!!!!,
Sep 11 - 6PM (Reply to #60)
tresor2
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How Sick is That? Onwithmylife

Your guy sounds like a gem. Sorry you had to endure all the abuse. Double standards are alive and well. I did the same thing, in terms of dating. Eight years ago, after he told me he didn't want a relationship, I posted under "plutonic" and met someone for a lunch. He turned out to be a psycho and that was the end of my online dating experience. I told N about it after he broke up with me and I think he found my ad and answered it, trying to see how far I'd go. He's a lawyer and in his response to my posting, he said he was a lawyer and he wanted me to meet him for a drink after he got off work at 10:00 PM. Thank God I didn't go. Would have been funny & embarressing. Eight years later (last year), he brought up the incident during his final D & D. He had a problem with my race preference in the ad which is exactly the same race he is. More double standards. Maybe this was at the root of his cruelty, I don't know. Sad isn't it.
Sep 11 - 3PM
Scoop
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When i found out my mum was

When i found out my mum was sick and i went to his for comfort he said "People die all the time you just have to deal with it anyway why do you want me to always sort out your problems for you" And when i had a pregnacy scare he said "its your fault your pregnant YOU slept with ME " actaully that one is not hurtful its just funny now, crazy psychopath !! He said on the 4th D&D (there where six !) "When i said i loved you i didnt mean it , i just felt sorry for you " At the 2nd D&D he dumped me just after sex when i wasnt even dressed yet , when asked why he had sex with me when he knew he was going to devastate me after he said " I was horny " He said "im helping you with your problems , only i know how disturbed you are " How about " i didnt sleep with her we just shared a bed thats all , your crazy !"....hahaha , im laughing now because its been a long time since i have thought about theses things and i realize how barking mad he was .I could go on all night have them in my journal , page apon page of them .. xx
Sep 11 - 11PM (Reply to #57)
HollyAnderson
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My little brother died

My little brother died crossing a train track and I told him about it. He just said well what was he doing on the track in the first place? He never was able to empathize with anything. I got called crazy alot. Him saying wher do we get married? to were just friends did you ever think it was anything different? Real nasty experiences we have all been through.
Sep 17 - 5PM (Reply to #58)
peteyrulz
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Holly...sounds like mine

my older brother died in April, and I got no support from N. His idea of support was "I paid for your plane ticket". I was just too emotional for this guy to handle. How dare I be upset over a tragic loss of my brother. Sheesh, what was I thinking. After all, it wasn't about HIM. I got called crazy a lot too. And I definitely "needed help". He wanted me to relocate with my son to his town, with no committment. I was supposed to trust him. Ha! It was a good thing I didn't....he broke up with me via text in June...haven't spoken to the jerk since. sorry...I am rambling...I could go on for hours! I love this forum.
Sep 11 - 6PM (Reply to #56)
tresor2
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Scoop - Labeling your N a Psycho is a Compliment

OMG...what a freak of genetically altered nature. He sounds stupid and totally wacked. Do they really believe their own BS? The crap that comes out of their mouths is insane and if it weren't so hurtful, would be a fascinating study. It's unreal and it's still hard to believe there are people in this world who are so disturbed and ruthless...the cockroaches of the universe.
Sep 11 - 3PM
mystwoman
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"I wished you'd hurry up and

"I wished you'd hurry up and die" because I have health problems. "You're just the wife" aka, I'm nobody important and I have no worth to him (unlike xnh's "adult" daughters and his mommy, who all supposedly crap gold according to xnh). "Maybe I'll just beat the shit out of you until you divorce me." "I've never before met as big of a fucking cunt as YOU are." "You're just a receptacle for my sperm." "You KNOW that I was always a good husband to you!" Bwahhh! Hahhhhhh! Hahhhhhh! Here's my loud, peels of laughter! If xnh was a "good husband", I never want to meet a "bad" one. Personally, I think I'd really rather DO WITHOUT than have another "good" husband like xnh. :) Xnh told me this line after he'd been cheating and he'd dumped me. He came back for a hoover attempt, and this is how he'd re-written history in his little, demented mind. Personally, I think xnh sucked as a husband (and as a lame excuse for a human being).

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Sep 11 - 3PM (Reply to #51)
Used
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anotherone

from my exnh, you cunt..oh no sorry you cant be a cunt b/c a cunt is useful your not..
Sep 11 - 3PM (Reply to #52)
mystwoman
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These jerks are not worth the

These jerks are not worth the air they breath! What a bunch of human waste. Before I met xnh, I had never even believed that it was even possible to be so cruel. My eyes are wide open now! Hugs to us all for being on the receiving end of these narc's vile treatment!

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Sep 18 - 1PM (Reply to #54)
Better than ever
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Oh, I forgot the best

Oh, I forgot the best one....we live in upstate NY but I have a Boston accent (slight) from living there over 20 years......So, he would pick on me, saying it made me sound retard....That should say it all.......
Sep 11 - 3PM (Reply to #53)
Scoop
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What i have learnt reading

What i have learnt reading this post is it was because of the hurtful things he said that made sure i stayed away form him . His hurtful mouth is what saved me . Please ladies im going to keep banging on about keeping a journal , you have to keep a record of theses things as i cant stress how it helps in your recovory , write it all down .Start it today if you havent already, its a good excuse to get yourself a lovely new journal , if your anything like me i just love shopping for stuff like that , there are some realy pretty ones around , TJ max have loads , love them i bought 3 the other day , £2 each ! bargin :) . xx
Sep 11 - 2PM
Swan
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painful truth

"I am the only one who loves you. I am the only one who understands you. Even your own family doesn't love you"
Sep 18 - 12PM (Reply to #49)
Scooters Mom
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hmm

mine told me this all the time. He would always make comments about how I was the black sheep of my family and didnt really fit in. He said other things too like: You dont make good decisions, infact I think the last good decision you made was to marry me. don't touch the remote for the T.V.because it isnt dummy proof. I don't mind working and paying all the bills, you just keep your Pu**y all tight and trimmed up. If your not the center of attention you dont go along with the plan. (because I got tired of having him make plans for me!) I could give you more money or try harder in the relationship but you dont inspire me. I'm not giving you money to move out because I've already taken care of your dead ass for 12 years. I will give you money to move out just to get you out of my hair. I have to look at porn because i was single once.
Sep 17 - 2AM (Reply to #48)
lillymarch
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Mine said the same thing! And

Mine said the same thing! And that no one would love me like him. That he would talk to any man who tried to date me and explain how screwed up I am. On and on. I was lucky to have him. Yuk
Sep 11 - 3PM (Reply to #47)
Swan
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~ and there are so many,

~ and there are so many, many, many more little gems.
Sep 11 - 3PM (Reply to #46)
Anabelle
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I am the only one who helps you

I am helping you. You need me. I need you. You are mine.... B U L L S H I T
Sep 11 - 2PM
Anabelle
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Hard to choose one

"Whatever I do it's wrong" "I was sleeping with her to find out how much I love you" "I masturbate always thinking of her whenever we had a fight" "You twist the stories" "Why are you giving in so easily?" "You have zero self-confidence. Why?" "Tell me is this the alcohol that makes you look for a fight?" "Stop questioning our relationship" "She kissed me" I think it's enough....for today