WTF

My neighbor is a visitor on this site a lot and she has been getting periodic contacts, in person and on the phone, for 15 years since her divorce to a narc . this Christmas he asked her to marry him again but told her he asked 2 other women and they said no. He is living with a woman he impregnated when she worked for him and he subsequently lost his job. He arrived at my neighbors house one night, in a cab, and told her he was going to 'give her another chance' and then asked her to pay the cab driver! She told the taxi driver to take him away. he had all of his suitcases ready to move in. Years ago he emptied her bank accounts, stole her house, and got a kid pregnant. his adult children don't speak to him, and my neighbor just laughs and hangs up now. She is 61 and he ruined her life and wants to give her another chance. They never go away because they burn their relationships and they are LONELY.

recycling the SUPPLY.

He's run out of supply(victims) and probably having trouble procuring another supply-so he's trying to recycle you. Don't let him! no contact or you'll be back to square one.

You usually can't go wrong in figuring it all out by applying this universal wisdom to men's thinking and wondering why they do things: They want 4 basic things in life: 1) Food 2) Sex 3) Sleep 4) The TV Remote I am not even making this up to be funny. My non-Narc ex told me this, very seriously. They are essentially like big hound dogs sleeping on the front porch of some hillbilly's shack. They want to sleep, eat, have sex, scratch themselves and occasionally bark at the mailman to get their kicks and look fierce. It's really that simple. And oh yeah, if they are a Narcissistic/Psychopath dog, it's like they have rabies and they are Cujo straight out of a Stephen King novel. Get it? Got it? Good! : )

Gee. Because there is something in it for him. What? Why does he miss you? Because there must be a vacancy to fill. Why now? Because whatever was occupying that spot has just left. If you have NC truly, then you do not know exactly what has changed in his life. He may have been dumped by a woman. Or, as with my husband, periodically throughout my 2 year marriage he sought to reestablish contact with his ex-wife, daughter, & ex-girlfriend. Wanted to be friends. Whatever. All refused him. What I am saying is that there may even be a full-time relationship but that relationship is not fulfilling all the needs. With my husband, I realized that he never really saw me. He probably never saw any woman. But each woman had qualities which pleased him, made him feel well. But each had so many qualities which he detested. When he moved on to a new woman who was his hope & salvation . . . she lacked those attractive qualities of the last woman. Mine even admitted that he wanted me to have X quality which his first wife had & Y quality which the former girlfriend had. In a perfect world I would be a composite of the good qualities (the ones he wanted) of those two women. And, a few of my own such as being a good cook. Mine had such a sense of entitlement . . . he truly believed that I should change, if I loved him, and develop the X & Y qualities to please him. So, this is a long way to say, he contacted you because you have something he thinks he wants. He hopes, on the off chance, you'll give it to him again. But, if you get involved with him again, he's gonna abuse you & eventually discard you. We all exist to be used. You could be useful right now, that's why he contacted you. Why you are useful? Who cares? Please don't let yourself be used.

Were you starting to feel better? Did he instigate NC and move on to someone else immediately? They can either sense us getting better and (slowly) moving on and they reach out ... or their new source stops delivering, and they reach out. I'm four and a half months and am almost certain that he's gone for good but I'm steeling myself in case he manages to find his way around my firewalls (snail mail is about the only way he could reach me). If you respond, there is guaranteed to be another D&D and it's likely to be worse. They like to tyre kick to see if we're still hooked. Stay tough, Curly.

have you not read all the other stories here? this is COMMON. BLOCK, DELETE, NO CONTACT why isn't he permanently blocked???? http://narc-attack.blogspot.com/2008/02/vaccine-for-narcissism.html