Hold On

Most of the new members here don't know me. I have been a member for a little over a year now on the forum. I was a victim of 2 disordered men, one a husband, one a long distant lover. I have seen the darkness on so many levels, I don't even care to think about it much these days. I wanted to come on today to post a message to all here, mainly the newbies, to say, it does get better, and it will get better, it just takes a long time.

I remember the darkeness, the despair, the helplessness. The feeling that you are not only losing the "love of your life", you feel you are losing everyone around you, including yourself. There are many days where you feel that it will never get better, it couldn't possibly, because you are that deep into the belly of the beast and there is no way out. There is however, and I know it doesn't feel like that right now, but there is. You must hold on as tight as you can and do the work necessary in order to get there. Do not give up. I can not express that enough. Do NOT give up.

You will find in life, that there are many people that come and go. That there are many problems that you will face. Whether with a disordered person or not. This is life. Is it fair? What we have experienced? No, it isn't. But you will find throughout your lifetime, that life sometime isn't fair. And what you do at that moment, is what is going to steer you in the direction that you need to be in in order to heal. Acceptance, is of the utmost. Acceptance of what has happened to you, that acceptance is what is going to guide you to recovery and continue to guide you throughout the remainder of your life.

One of my favorite sayings, now that I have healed and found happiness within my life and more importantly within me is this..........

"I love the ones who are in my life and make it amazing and I thank the ones who left my life and made it even more fantastic"

It is such a profound statement and a true one indeed.

Hold on my friends. It does get better, it does get easier, and you will see the light at the end of the tunnel. Continue on your journey to healing. Life is beautiful.

Hugs.