Had to share............

I am out last night with a few girlfriends. Sitting on the deck of a dive bar, having a couple cocktails and some bar bites, catching up with eachother. A lovely evening.

The table across from us, sits 3 men. One looks directly at me and hollers over, "Can you settle a debate for us" I respond "No, I don't believe I can" he stands up and walks to the table and asks "why not" and I say "oh brother" and resume talking to my one friend, ignoring him. My other friend, Michele, sitting next to me lets out a little giggle (I love her dearly but she is clueless to this type of character) he than asks her if she will settle a debate. She responds "sure" with a smile. I turned to her and say "please don't" she of course ignores me.

Here is the dialogue between them...........

N: My buddies and I were wondering who is the hottest of the three of us

M: Oh, I don't know, you all have good qualities. You are all different, and good looking in your own way.

N: Tell me them

M: Well, I love the nicely trimmed beard on your one friend. And your other friend has very nice eyes.

N: And what about me? What do you think my best feature is?

M: Your built very nice and you have great hair.

N: Those features are better than my "package"?

Michele looks puzzled and doesn't know what to say........

N: My balls are my best feature

M: Excuse me?

N: My balls are my best feature. And if you could see them, you would want to lick them.

I speak up and say, you are going to have to leave right now, or I will have to have you escorted out of here. I motion to the bouncer. He leaves, chuckling.

Michele turns to me and says "Do I have a bulls eye on my forehead or what" and I said "Indeed you do Michele, indeed you do"

My point to this post is to remind all of you that they are out there in droves. You will encounter them everywhere, because yes, there is a target on your back, that ONLY a NPD will detect. Do your homework, create your boundaries, and once you do, you will not engage with the likes of these low lifes. Michele wanted to know how I was able to see him for what he was and she wasn't able to. It's simple, I educated myself on the disordered.

***side note: she was just in a LTR with a man for a year. They finally met in California this February. She received her D & D upon her return and now is receiving the ST. Sound familiar? I explained to her what was happening to her a couple months ago, but she doesn't believe me.............she will unfortunately have to learn like we all do.