HELP Week from hell continues

I posted previously about how my N is in town (he lives in another country) to sign papers to sell the house, his daughter's graduation from college and to file for divorce, I guess....well it has been hell! After reading a post on here yesterday a member had me second guessing his "N" and I am wondering if it is just an excuse for me to deal with rejection. I dunno???? I was convinced, as is my counselor but then I get confused. Obviously I have had to had some encounters with him...at times he is cold...at times he refers to my by his pet name??? Then a strange thing happened this morning. We are clearing the house out so there is a lot of trash. He asked yesterday if I wanted him to take the trash out to the curb and I said no I can get it. Well I took most of it out (some of the bags were heavy) and then this morning he calls asking if I need him to take the heavy stuff out? What is that? Is that a "hoover" or as a friend of mine says "a guy who feels guilty." N's don't feel guilt so I am messed up all over again!!!!