On Approach

To clear the confusion of another thread it was suggested that I repost this here.

I remember something I was told a long time ago when I was in group therapy. I didn't like the way the head counselor was directing the group. I requested to transfer to a different counselor.

I was told this, If she makes me uncomfortable than it is more important for me to stay and learn to see things from a different perspective. I was told that I was so used to running when things didn't go my way I never really dealt with anything, that was part of the reason I was in therapy in the first place. They even called me spoiled! They said I needed to do something different because MY WAY obviously wasn't working. I was offended and appalled, at first.

Then I let my ego go and did the work as I was directed to do it. Guess what happened? It worked, turns out that counselor was a really great woman who only had MY best interest in mind. I had to realize that I had no idea how to handle my situation (or I wouldn't have been in it). We don't have all the answers, that is why we ask for help.

I appreciate Hunter and all the Mods for the effort they put into helping us heal, it's huge. Of course there are things I don't want to hear sometimes, but I KNOW that I need to hear them.