Therapy???

I had first session with a therapist today...gaver her the coles notes version of how things have been going down the last segment of my life and that I want to know why I am attracting these people and how I can for once attract somebody I can squabble with without being punished..

Like OTHER PEOPLE, felt like if I didn't give the EXACT CORRECT RESPONSE to his SHITTY behaviour, then he is somehow justified with the D&D, even though I did my absolute best to convey my concerns in the most mature, hissy-fit free way possible.

I see other people being perpetual nags and pestery with their partners, who get annoyed and speak up to them, but they don't D&D them!!!!

Why is it so hard to find some actual help!!! This person is supposed to be trained in CBT and at times I felt judged and almost poo-pooed...she did not GET why a relatively short term relationship would have impacted me so hard and why I would have such difficulties afterward!!

Does anyone have any experience or know how to put it to her so she knows the feeling afterward, though disproportionate to the overall significance of the relationship is very much real whether anybody thinks its justified or not??