The ex-N at work

How do those of you working with the ex-N handle it on a daily basis? If you're stuck in this situation, too, and changing jobs isn't an option right now, what do you do to cope?

This is an ongoing source of anxiety and frustration for me, especially when he draws women into the scene. That's the worst part and is why our relationship ended in the first place.

I try to ignore him, to do my own thing, but it's impossible not to hear or see him (we sit a few desks away from one another). And often he wants me to overhear things that seem designed to make me jealous. Or he hides things, like before, and is cagey. It triggers me.

I feel "worked on" still (he's "at work" while at work, if you follow me) and grow anxious at times over these other women. I guess the pain of the betrayal hasn't fully subsided. Seeing them draw new sources of supply is tough.