About Hunter

I remember during one of my difficult moments Hunter responded by telling me to put on my big girl panties. Initially, I was taken aback and thought her comment was both nasty and insensitive. What could possibly be the purpose of saying such a thing? I didn't get it. I'm asking for help and am being treated like a child?

My initial reaction was to run and get off of this forum. I don't need this type of treatment; I have been through enough. I thought of what brought me to this forum and what I wanted t to get out of being here. There must be something in that comment I'm missing...Big girl panties??? Was she just having a bad day? PMS? I really thought about it- such an odd thing to say.

My thoughts were all over the pIace but within 60 seconds it clicked, I got it. Iknew, like a child learning to be potty trained, that I had an important choice to make. The choice was all mine- I owned it. I wanted to be in dry pants and, I and only I had the power of control...I chose the big girl panties. I knew may have accidents along the way but it was worth it.

I acknowledged she was right . If I didn't fight, no matter how painful it is now, when I'm old, gray and incontinent, my pants would be soiled because there is no way in hell my narc would change my "Depends!"

Please, pick the big girl panties! BTW, in case you are wondering, I chose Wonder Woman!
Thanks Hunter!