Do they know?

A few times when he was drunk ex N would ask me if I loved him. And when I said yes he replied "well I'm not a pleasant man". This surprised me because he always blamed me for causing problems in the relationship, his favorite saying was "I'm a nice guy". Sometimes I wondered if the things he said when drunk were his true feelings under the mask.

That narky idiot I was married to? Well, sometimes he would have a grown up moment and admit he had a few issues, just a few and someone else caused them, but most of the time he was so ignorant he really did think it was my fault he was cheating, or giving me the silent treatment. Looking back, I really don't take it personal anymore. He use to give his beloved dog the silent treatment. Seriously. If he was in a mood, he would shew the dog away and ignore it's plea for attention. I am almost 2 years out and have a lot more clarity now. I think he was really stunted in like a 8 year old mind emotionally.

Pretty sure mine does. After D&D when we were still communicating he told me he was no good for me, in fact he said he was poison for me and that he could never have a healthy relationship with anyone. (Fine and well to share that with me now buddy, now that the damage is done. Selfish asshat.)

Yes, To find the answers , keep reading.. Watch the Sam Vaknin utube videos., Also Lisa book " All About Him" is the best place to start. Hunter

From what I read, they know, they just don't care. I don't know if this is in every case, but it is a common trait. I'm still a newbie, I sure the mods will steer you right.