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#1 Feb 16 - 8PM
whskywmn5
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Had surgery today

Today was the day I had my surgery.....im still a little out of it, but hopefully tomorrow will be better....the surgeon told my parents that he didnt see any sign that the large lump they removed was cancer, but he still sent it off for testing...lol didnt get much rest today, the phone rang off the hook, but hopefully everyone will be in bed rest of night...so im getting ready to turn in once againa.

Some of you may get a kick out of this, I didnt! Got a email last night from Narc's online gf, telling me she would be praying for me the next 10 days until i got the results back from my test. That she hoped one day we could be friends, and if I ever needed anyone to talk to she was a good listener....haha like im actually going to spill anymore of my heartache out to this woman, I did my best to warn her previously and she didnt listen...so now she is on her own!

Maggie

Feb 17 - 9AM
janemarie
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You take this time to focus

You take this time to focus on yourself and healing... Screw her...screw him...it's all about YOU now!!! Here's to a speedy recovery and hoping that everything turns out alright for you!!!!
Feb 17 - 9AM (Reply to #10)
whskywmn5
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thanks janemarie

Thank you, yes I will take this time to focus on my own healing.....they deserve each other. I have never been a person that put myself first in anything, I always did for everyone else, im a giver not a taker......but I realize now I have to give to myself and allow myself to take the time to put myself first....takes a new mind set to do that, but this forum has helped me greatly since i first joined here..and I have gradually learned to love myself, because if I cant love myself, how can I ever expect anyone else to love me in the way that I need to be loved in. Maggie
Feb 17 - 9AM (Reply to #11)
spinning
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Wow, wsky, this is

awesome and so true: "I have gradually learned to love myself, because if I cant love myself, how can I ever expect anyone else to love me in the way that I need to be loved in." I am grateful for the reminder. You have come a long way and done outstanding work. It is awesome! I wish you a very speedy recovery and nothing but good news and great gifts in your future. Hugs from, (not) spinning. AND STILL LEARNING TO LOVE MYSELF EVERY SINGLE DAY

spinning

Feb 17 - 9AM (Reply to #12)
whskywmn5
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Thank you (not) spinning for

Thank you (not) spinning for the best wishes for a speedy recovery, I have faith that its going to all turn out for the best now. Ive really missed coming here, but for last few weeks so much has been going on in my life....something had to take a backseat and sad to say it was this forum for that time...but now with the surgery behind me, and hopefully more peace of mind, I can return here more often....esp for next couple weeks anyways i wont be working my 2 job at all in the evenings because there is heavy lifting invovled in it....taking several days off of my other one, to at least have a couple days of nothing but rest.
Feb 17 - 3AM
peacelily76
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Wishing you a speedy recovery

Hope you are feeling better soon. I had surgery on an ovary two years ago right after I walked out on my narc. He wouldn't have cared if I'd died and I had realised this. When I woke up from the anaesthetic, I felt like a woman ready to heal myself. I had a new resolve. Since then I have quit smoking, taken up running and lost weight. I got a new job and moved to a lovely new home. You've just been through something very stressful and worrying and now you feel like you can do anything. Embrace this. Keep going. You deserve happiness and we wish you every strength as you recover xx
Feb 17 - 4AM (Reply to #8)
whskywmn5
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Thank you

Thank you so much, for your words of encouragement, I realize mine couldnt have cared less either, no matter how much he claimed the opposite, he tried repeatly to get me to go back to him, esp after he knew the lump was getting larger and causing alot of pain, offered to stand by me no matter what...hahaha I knew by going back to him I would be opening myself back up to alot more heartache and suffering , because we all know he would have made my life a living hell even more than it was the first time, because he would have known he had the upper hand once again. Lol when I woke up from the anaethetic all i felt was sickkkk.... threw up all the way home from the hospital and all i had to eat all day long was some crackers. I never smoked so I dont have that to deal with, but i definetely need to lose some weight...so now with the weather beginning to warm up some, I will make it a important step each day to get in some walking and moving. Congrats on all the goals you have achieved in your life since you left your N, its a work in progress here...one day at a time. Maggie
Feb 16 - 9PM
fallingfoward
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Wishing......

you the best as you recover. Hugs
Feb 17 - 1AM (Reply to #6)
whskywmn5
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Thanks

Thanks you the support I have recieved from here at times has been a life saver.
Feb 16 - 9PM
Maggster
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Focus on regaining your

Focus on regaining your strength. I'm sending you many well wishes.
Feb 17 - 1AM (Reply to #4)
whskywmn5
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Thank you Maggster

Thanks you for the well wishes....thats where alot of my energy has went the past month or so, since I have been concerned with what was happening with my health issues. I havent been on site very much, because the issues of my N have sort of taken a back burner for the moment while I was dealing with the matter at hand. I know I still will be waiting a few more days for the final outcome of my sugery results....but from all indications those will be good, so thats a huge load off of my mind, and I can eventually return my mind to the matter at hand, which is finally getting him out of my life. Maggie
Feb 16 - 9PM
phantom adoration
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Seriously? I would be

Seriously? I would be blocking her. Contact with his girl firend can not be good for your health. The best to you in revcovery
Feb 17 - 1AM (Reply to #2)
whskywmn5
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She will be blocked

Most definetely as I regain my strenght after my surgery, and can better focus on stuff her blockage will be one of the first matters at hand. Even without being under the weather, I dont want to be in contact with her, and I refuse to allow her to be a reason to drag me back into the arena where he will become a part of my daily life once again.