Terms of endearment

He always called me honey, but at times when I'de forget things, he'd call me "Wendy". It was a name he reserved for me at my spacy moments. Don't know why.(My name is nothing close to Wendy.) And when he was mad at me, which he claims he never once was,(liar)- he'd call me by my name. Also toward the end he kept calling me by my name.

All used on all of her victims! I was crushed the first time I found that she was using these names on others... now I know, they are just tools of the NARC trade. It's sad how being called those words used to make me feel so special. Now, I HATE to hear those terms used by anyone. They just remind me of all that is fake in the world.

I was baby and darling...maybe a few others...I forget. He only ever used my name once in a text and that was to end things.

I don't mean to burst your bubble but they call you terms of endearments so they don't accidentally call you by the name of the girl they are sneaking around with. EVERY TIME the NARC/pimp calls me sweetheart or honey...I TWIST in my skin and scream in my head, "DON'T F-ing CALL ME THAT!!!" When I read the e mails and messages between him the 17 other women he was mucking around with...I noticed right away that he called them ALL, "Little girl" "Beautiful" "Sweetheart" "Sweety" "Honey" "Baby" Yeh...so I HATE when he calls me those things...means nothing to me except that they remind me of his conversations with his OW's..

Mine would call me by the usual pet names but would always start emails or letters with "MY" before my name. I was stupid enough to think it was so cute that I was "his"...

Xnh always called me the same "terms of endearment" that he called his grossly favored, oldest hideous P daughter. I found it revolting that he couldn't manage to think up something original (or at least different from her pet names). I honestly think xnh would get us mixed up sometimes. Maybe it's that he's told so many lies and rewrote history so many times that he doesn't know what is really true any longer. Xnh would accuse ME of saying/doing things that his oldest daughter said/did, and he would tell me that *I* had been in places that only he and his daughters had gone. When I would deny any of this, xnh accused me of being mentally deranged and crazy. I'm, also, sure this was one of his forms of "crazy making" as well. Later in our relationshit, xnh's "term of endearment" for me did become much different from his oldest daughter's. Hers stayed "pumpkin, sweetie, cutie pie". Mine became "you fucking cunt, bitch, and crazy, frigid twat". Either way, xnh's terms of endearment did NOT feel "special" to me. I like it better now. I'm divorced from xnh, completely NC, and get called NO "pet" names at all by anyone. :)

Everything but my name..........hmmmmm. A huge red flag!

Mine would call me "Beautiful" and "Hun"...it made me feel really special! Until I met his "friends" who were all girls, and he used those names with them too...and one day read his text messages and he was calling girls these names along with a lot of other inappropriate things to be calling a girl who is just your friend. What losers!