He raged

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#1 Feb 2 - 10PM

Narcd72

He raged

I have to post this because it fits so well, but at the same time would like to hear input because it still damn hurts..I bought my N a $500 bike for Christmas that he has never taken from my garage..he broke up with me a few weeks later saying he wasn't in love with me anymore and wasn't sure if he ever had been..I looked at him like a deer in headlights and said, "I will put all of your things in the garage (he knows where the key is) and the bike is yours because it was my gift to you"...at the time I was blindsided and thought well shit a gift is a gift..then I got to thinking F him..he hasnt even taken it since Christmas and according to him ( and what I've read) this whole thing has been a facade..so I put all of his stuff in the garage so he could pick it up while I was at work..minus the bike..I decided to sell it and book a plane ticket to a beach in Mexico instead..thought that he hadn't really wanted it anyway since he had never taken it from my house as well (he said he'd been wanting to break up for a while..little did I know)..so, he came to get his things today and when he saw that the bike was no longer in the garage, he went crazy..calling my neighbors incessantly (our mutual friends) asking what I had done with the bike..trying to belittle me by saying, "What kind of person give a Christmas gift and then takes it back..I guess she's shown her true colors..I thought we ended as friends and I never said anything about her but that has now changed"...he was raging according to them , something I had never seen because he always acted like the cool calm level headed one.. I don't think I did anything wrong but still have those doubts because it's only been recently that I am breaking free..to me, I'm seeing his true colors but I still wonder if I should have done this or not.. I didn't want to give him any excuses to devalue me more but at the same time I'm glad I showed that I didn't give a s anymore..unfortunately I still do..please help thank you

#2 Feb 4 - 6AM

janemarie

How old is this moron?!?!

How old is this moron?!?! Did the bike have training wheels?? He just showed everyone HIS true colors...when someone gets that out of control..they make themselves look bad!!!! He looks like the jerk here NOT you!!! Have a wonderful time in Mexico!!!! xoxo

#3 Feb 4 - 2AM

ValiditySeeker

Put yourself in his shoes

Supposing that he bought you a gift that you never bothered to use then you later found out he taken back after your breakup, how would you feel? Given that you didn't much care for the guy or the gift, it wouldn't bother you that much. I don't picture a normal person raging about it. Even if it bothered you a little, would you run screaming to the neighbors and anyone who would listen? I think not. His behavior is NOT normal or appropriate. I hope you're not still confused about him.

#4 Feb 4 - 11PM (Reply to #14)

abreva

your analysis of the situation

I like the way you break this down and analyze it. Unfortunately the exhn-psychopath is not the only bizarre person in my life. He's recruited other people to mess with me, and it's always nutty.

#5 Feb 3 - 10PM

Run4it

Narcd72

I am hoping you did not give that asshole his bike back. The trip to Mexico sounds a whole lot better plus, I have found that getting out of town helps in your NC efforts and obsessing.

#6 Feb 3 - 7PM

matahari

good on you gal

Good on you...dont feel bad about selling the bike. I would have sold the whole lot and told him to take a running jump, I would not even allow him into your garage infact not any where on your property. He no longer has the privilege. Go for nc and time will be a healer.xx

#7 Feb 3 - 12PM

spinning

Narcd, isn't it amazing

how textbook they are? Again you are being shown a textbook example of what happens when you DARE stand up for yourself and no longer bow at their feet and do exactly what they wish because it's so All About Them. What a f'n wimp and lowlife of a man to crow to neighbors and others about a bike PAID FOR BY A GIRLFRIEND THAT HE BROKE UP WITH AND SAID HE DID NOT LOVE that he didn't get to keep. Believe me your neighbors see this for what it is worth. Please don't worry about it! He looks exactly like the whiney baby asshat he is! What a huge wimp!! I sold something of Freak Boy's too. He actually bought it for my house, but he was the only one who used it. I remember feeling a little weird about it as well, but I went with my gut at to this day I am so glad I did. I needed the money and he was out of the picture, by his own choice. I hope you sell the bike soon and do something nice for yourself with the money. I am sorry you went through this but I know, Narcd, that one day soon you will be happy to be free of the chaos and dead weight this person brought into your life. Sincerely, (not) spinning. AND SO VERY GRATEFUL FOR THAT

spinning

#8 Feb 3 - 4PM (Reply to #9)

Narcd72

Big setback

Spinning, first of all thank you for all your support! You've helped so much.. Today I called a friend to see what she thought of the bike thing..and she told me not to feel bad at all because he has been flaunting a new girl around town..I knew it but didn't know it would suck this bad to hear it..we just broke up last week so I assume this isn't a recent thing if he was introducing her to friends last week too.. I got so pissed I texted him that I knew and that he should come get the bike so they could ride around together.. His only reply was if he could get his ladder too (something he forgot to take) I guess I should have expected this but it doesn't help any to think that .. I feel like absolute shit..help

#9 Feb 3 - 5PM (Reply to #10)

Im_always_fine

It's a brand new bike. I

It's a brand new bike. I guarantee you he's planning to give to his new GF. That's why he had such fit. He was going to act like HE bought it for her...or her kid (if she's a mom) Why should it cost you $500 so he can look like great guy?

#10 Feb 3 - 12AM

narcfreeinms

You sold a bike, I sold a boat :)

My husband never used the boat. I loved that boat - I enjoy fishing. However, when he declared he wanted a divorce, I sold that boat and used the money to get a darn good lawyer and served him papers first charging him with habitual cruelty and inhumane treatment. I was fed up and tired of his abandoning me without any warning. And yeah, what IS the deal with them pulling crap around the holidays? It NEVER fails? You did the RIGHT thing. It's not in our nature to do those sort of things, but you had every right to do what you did with the bike. You're still a caring human being with normal emotions. Therefore, you also have a conscience. But in this matter, you don't need to give it a second thought. You bought the bike for him to USE. He didn't use it. He pulled the usual narc crazy leaving game, and it was all about him. And then he showed his true colors to your friends/neighbors. I would have been laughing at him. The most important thing is that you enjoy/enjoyed your trip to Mexico - and you will not regret selling that bike. Let's see, a beach in Mexico with peace and quiet, or a bike sitting in the garage that was a gift for a nut with a cracked shell. Need I say more? :)

#11 Feb 2 - 11PM

Im_always_fine

He can SUCK IT! You bought

He can SUCK IT! You bought it...you have the receipt...it's YOURS under the law. WHAT Christmas present? Prove it. So you changed your mind...happens all the time. Your conscience is probably going to niggle you a bit because you don't do stuff like this. Tell your conscience to shut up. He was probably going to give it to his NEW girlfriend...so generous...a brand new bike. He probably already set it up, "Hey babe how'd you like a new bike?" Haha...how's he gonna explain that? What kind of person gives a present and takes it back? The kind who was lied to, used, exploited, NARCED. A little taste of his own medicine won't hurt him at all.

#12 Feb 2 - 10PM

HelpMeHeal

She kept my bike..... Wahhhhh!

Go buy your own you f'in child. Ugh! I hate them all. (I'm in the worst mood tonight. Almost one month NC.)

#13 Feb 2 - 10PM

nomoredenial

Fuck him

It wasnt a real relationship so you didnt have to give real gifts. He was showing his true colors....can you say projection? It only matters when it matters to them, they are all the same. Dont worry about it, he already proved he didnt really want it, he was prolly going to sell it for money...thats what the x did.

#14 Feb 2 - 10PM (Reply to #2)

GeorgiaGirl

I agree

Fuck him and the bike he didn't ride off on! ;o)

#15 Feb 3 - 12PM (Reply to #4)

faithinthefuture

LMAO!!!!!

I love it georgiagirl! I have the vision of the wicked witch from the movie Wizard of Oz!

#16 Feb 3 - 12PM (Reply to #3)

Hunter

GG

Hahaha.. Love it.. Hark Hark this guy with (out) a bike is a text book narc.. Hunter

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