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#1 Feb 2 - 9AM
Movingforwardnow
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I am serious about my recovery

I am so serious about my recovery. I want to move on and be done with this part of my life. I don't look at it as a waste, more like a lesson. I have learned so much and cotinue to learn more each day. As I said, I am serious about my recovery....anyone else serious about it? I know I gave my all to the r/s and now I realize that I am worthy and am giving my all to my recovery. I asked myself why was it ok to give my all to a disordered jerk but not give ME my ALL in my recovery? That was just confirming that I think he is more worthy then me...NOT TRUE! I am worth it! So worth it that I am signed up for the weekly support group and feel great about it. Where there's a will there's a way! Doing something for me. If you, too, are serious about your recovery do something for YOU! Who else is taking this recovery stuff seriously???????

Feb 2 - 9AM
Movingforwardnow
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Thanks everyone!

Thanks for all the support. This forum is saving my life...so that makes all of you LIFESAVERS! Someday, I want to take all I have learned and am learning and do something BIG with it. I don't know what yet, time will tell...but I know there is a HUGE reason why I had to learn this lesson.
Feb 2 - 9AM
Sparrow
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Movingforwardnow, I am so

Movingforwardnow, I am so glad to read this post! You have been dealt an incredible blow and it will take time to sort everything out. Being serious about your recovery is the absolute best attitude to have. Marriage, when you wake up one day and discover it is over, is a hard dose of reality in itself. I, as you, was married for many years and was faced with the reality of the OW. I decided right than and there that this was serious, so I must be serious as well. And the payoff for my committment and convictions were incredible. The way I look at it, you are in a boat, and the boat has a hole in it. Do you continue to bail out the water? Or do you decide that its best to plug up the hole? Plugging the hole made the most sense to me, and thats what I did. If not, I would still, to this day either be bailing or have sunk by now. There lies the difference. Instead of trying to find the answers to the whys, acknowledge what has happened and get serious about recovering, the answers to your whys will come either way. My best to you on your journey to healing. It's a long road but you will do it. You are stronger than your disordered husband ever considered and you don't need his dead weight holding you down! :)
Feb 2 - 9AM
Hunter
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Knowledge is Power.. You're

Knowledge is Power.. You're on your way.. This group is an asset on so many levels.. I hope many others take advantage of it.. http://www.lisaescott.com/2012/01/19/support-groups-now-offered-path-forward Hunter
Feb 2 - 9AM
Movingforwardnow
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I ahve read the book and

I ahve read the book and watched the movie! You get back what you think about most!
Feb 2 - 9AM (Reply to #3)
spinning
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Right on, Moving!

What you focus your thoughts on becomes your reality! This is so key to moving forward and creating a beautiful life. It starts with looking at all of the gifts and blessings in front of you....more appear. Shifting the focus (as hard as it was and as much conscious effort as it took) was KEY TO MY MOVING FORWARD and key to the happiness and joy I experience now. It is so so so so different, so much better than I ever thought my life could be just a mere year ago! It is amazing! Change your thoughts, change your life... I am so proud of you, Moving. You are doing great. Sincerely, (not) spinning. AND IT FEELS GREAT

spinning

Feb 2 - 9AM
Phoenix72
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Read my post named The Secret

Read my post named The Secret