Finances

owe about 17000 because of him. He has had one checking account closed on him and is working in the second one, i get all the bank stuff in the mail. Last night I forgot my debit card in my pants pocket and went to write a check and they said you cant, you have a returned check. I called the headquarters and they said we were linked to gehter and he had a bad check. They took my name out of his. Its wierd it was two diffrent banks that we are at but they somehow stoipped mine too. its hard not to feel sorry for him......i know i know can you even believe I said that

long story - don't even know where to start. Yep - lots of money. If I ever loose my mind & remarry again, there will be a prenup

My ex N lives for today - he drinks and smokes heavily, has big credit card debt, and took out a mortgage on his house after it was paid off just to get more money. I know that in 6 years he owes a balloon payment of $100,000 which he does not have. He is 52 (he looks younger, goodness knows why with his hard living) and has said to me he doesn't think he will make it until 60. Like I said, he lives fast and doesn't worry about tomorrow. I own a condo and he used to hint to me about selling my condo and moving in with him and helping him pay off his house. I was smart enough not to fall for that, I have a young daughter and am broke so this condo is my nest egg. I would have been screwed if I moved in with him and we broke up, I would have nothing.

I always insisted on keeping my finances completely separate from xnh (even though he tried every way he could think to get his mitts into my money, including abuse). He would have gladly ruined me financially, if he could have done it. I could see that xnh was a complete financial idiot from the beginning of our relationship. Personally, I'm very cautious with my money. Xnh spends like there is no tomorrow. He's truly scary. I've seen him (literally) impulse purchase cars, ATV's, and other expensive toys for himself while we were married, and put them onto very high interest rate credit cards. Then he never gives the balance of the bills a second thought. He had already filed for bankruptcy once before I met him. I'm guessing that he's heading for a second one in the future. When we divorced, xnh owed $47K in credit card debt, $33K more on one of his cars that was $6K upside down on the loan, $5K on his daughter's car, and another $8K on his ATV. In the 19 months since our divorce was final, xnh has traded his cars 5 times, bought three more ATV's, got thrown out of his apartment and impulse purchased a $250K house. Xnh eats out at the most expensive restaurants whenever he feels like it, and he travels to his mommy's house in another state at least once a month. I'm sure xnh is just putting most of this spending onto credit cards, and paying minimum payments (that's how he's always done). All I can say is THANK GOD I kept my finances and accounts completely separate from xnh because, when we got divorced, the courts ordered him to keep all of his massive debts, and I kept my own. I owned my house during the marriage. It was mine before I'd ever met him, and I also kept my car loan. If I had mingled money with xnh, the courts would have ordered me to take half of all of xnh's debt (community property). Since my name was not on any of xnh's accounts, and my accounts had always been separate from his, I walked away keeping only my two loans. Yes, I truly felt the door to my financial doom swish past my butt during my divorce from xnh. His debts could have ruined me. These narcs are notorious for destroying those around them for their own personal benefit. They are so impulsive, toxic, and self-centered that it's unreal.

Im out 12k because of that asshole!!!!!

Liars,users and losers.. Oh add con man to the mix.. Yep just part of being Narced.. Hunter