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of treating him like any other ex and tried to move on peacefully. His ego took that to mean I was "hitting" on him and waiting around for him to call. That sucked! You can not give them ANYTHING! Don't even speak as it will be misinterpreted and used against you.

Your indifference to him is like a red flag to a bull because narcs are all about control. It doesn't matter whether he wants you, what he thinks about you, or anything else about you. To him you are supply, and what HE wants is the only important thing to him. By going NC with him and ignoring him, you are taking yourself out of his control (and putting that control of yourself 100% back into your own hands). THIS is why the narc finds your NC to be such a challenge. He can't control you, and it bugs the living crap out of him that he can't change this. NC is about us, not the narc. It gives US the space we need to heal and recover. WE are taking control back of ourselves. It removes us completely from their control. ANY form of contact with the narc is supply to them. The narc sees any contact you allow as a crack in your NC door, and they'll make a charge for it, because if they can force you to have contact with them, they can manipulate/control you. Narcs don't like not being in control. NC takes that power away from the narc. You made the comments: I honestly feel like I can't do this anymore but my pride will not let him see how weak he has made me. But in showing strength it almost encourages him because he doesn't feel he's accomplished what he set out to do which is clearly to leave me do broken that I can't function it's like he's jealous and resentful because I don't contact him and make it clear I never would and that I'm moving on. By maintaining your NC you are not showing the narc that you are weak. You're showing him that you're too strong for him to manipulate/control,and THAT is what is making him angry. You are correct that he would like to see you so broken that you can't function. They all would like to see that about us. Xnh would dearly LOVE to see me face down in the dirt, and so devastated that it ruins my entire life without him. It's NOT going to happen in my world. Remain NC, and don't give the narc that power. So what if it angers the narc? He's not voting about anything to do with you. YOU are. Eventually he will tire of his childish games, and simply move onto easier supply. By remaining NC, you will prove to be too much effort. If you give a narc ANY supply (positive or negative), he will see it as your weak underbelly, and he will home in on it. Any contact with the narc is a potential way for him to get his control back. Mark my words, if he gets back into your life in any way, the narc will make sure to punish you in the most hurtful manner he possibly can. You defied him and went NC! How DARE you?!?! lol. I know it's really hard to just ignore the narc when they step up the hoovering. Xnh did this with me for quite some time. However, eventually he moved on to easier prey. My best advice it to continue your NC, and ignore the narc completely. If you are afraid of him hurting you, call the police EVERY time he surfaces, keep a written log of his harassing behavior, and get a restraining order, if you need. You are doing absolutely nothing "wrong". You're doing what is right and necessary for YOU. You are now looking out for yourself. Good for you! High fives! Huge hugs.

Indenial, I think you've been here long enough to know that the advice is to BECOME indifferent, not ACT indifferent, the only way you can BECOME indifferent is No Contact...period. He should have no way to contact you. Supply is supply is supply. The only thing that really, truly communicates indifference is the sound of crickets chirping. Based on the behavior you describe, he will never go away until he gets complete and total silence from you as that will truly signify the end of you as a supply source for him. Knowing what you know about him, do you think that he is really going to do what is in YOUR best interest, which would to fuck off, versus HIS? I wouldn't count on that...you will have to do this for yourself by going NC. I had to see it for myself by going back one more time 10 days ago. While I acted indifferent at the time, the fact is, I wasn't indifferent or I wouldn't have been communicating with him. I'm still not indifferent, but the longer I stay NC, a place from where I'm able to see things much clearer, I know I will eventually get to indifference and I believe it will be glorious! xoxo Lynn

Hi indenial - any contact - negative/positive is all good supply to a narcissist. Change all contact details if possible - I did and it feels very good, so much peace. Only NC works.