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#1 Jan 6 - 6AM
Jelickuk
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Am I wrong

I've been nc since aug.

My daughter is in intensive care. He hated her. She is 30 now and he was with me since she was 14 and was only nice to her at beginning of our marriage. I feel great guilt that I did nothing.

I received this text from him today

I'm sorry to hear that becky Iain such a bad way. I'm praying for all 4 of you. Anything at all, please just ask. Take care x

I have been detached and ok with him gone. Now I doubt everything again.

He sounds caring and reasonable.

I go back to maybe it was my fault anyway. His ow is a Christian. They must be good people. I am the mess.

I hate this shit.

I feel I was doing so well. Didn't even open a gift he sent me and will not communicate with him at all.

Feel crazy

Jan 7 - 2AM
Im_always_fine
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"Anything at all" ??? (*evil

"Anything at all" ??? (*evil grin) Tell him you want $15,000. Not a loan..straight up. When he says,"No" call him a liar and block him. Aren't Christian women just the biggest suckers for these guys. It's the "submit and obey" that they like. I know because I'm a Christian. That's how he hoovered me. He found Jesus so I let him back in to my life. PHHT. It's just a better way for him to hide how exploitative he is. He uses the Christian lingo...goes to church...but I assure that he is one way with me at home at COMPLETELY another out there in the world.
Jan 7 - 2AM
Journey
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I agree 100% with Spinning...

I agree 100% with Spinning... it is but a crumb. Don't doubt for a second that it means he is 'normal'. I completely understand how that doubt enters. It is so difficult at times to keep our perspective clear about the narc, but we must always remember to see who they really are behind that mask. You have been doing great! NC since Aug, wow, good for you!! I am sorry to hear about your daughter being in intensive care, I hope she will be alright. Your ex is a piece of shit, don't forget that! Being a Christian does not make a person a 'good' person... what is in their hearts is what really matters. Don't be fooled by this 'morsel' he tosses from time to time. As I've learned from a recent email from my exN - it truly is all they are capable of giving. Stay strong! (hugs)

Journey on...

Jan 6 - 10AM
spinning
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Jel, sweetpea, see this for what

it is: A CRUMB. You deserve a banquet. This "person" gave you crumbs...and they were pretty crumby at that. Do not forget that. He CHOOSE to blow up your entire life together. He tosses his crumb of sympathy and in his deluded mind that makes him "great" to you. You know better, Jel. It's a crumb. Sweep it out of your head. Hugs to you. You have done very, very well. Don't let a little crumb become a big stumbling block in your Path Forward! Love, (not) spinning. AND SWEEPING OUT ALL THE CRUMBS!

spinning

Jan 6 - 9AM
ordinarycourage
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Block him....

Talk is cheap to narcissists. He wants to look good to OW. You are NOT crazy!
Jan 6 - 6AM
NarcJunkie
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Sorry to hear he's messing with your head :(

Please don't allow him to send you any more texts - block him. And don't let this confuse you - remember all the things he has done to you - you KNOW who he is. And he is NOT good. His OW may be, sure, because she is one of us probably, a caring empath and clueless. Trust yourself and trust us here when we tell you: it's not you! Never trust the narc and never let him mess with you again! My best wishes for you and your daughter - I hope she'll be better soon :) NJ
Jan 6 - 7AM (Reply to #2)
Jelickuk
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Thank you. I am full of

Thank you. I am full of doubts.
Jan 7 - 1AM (Reply to #3)
Done sourcing
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He is a Narc. Probably

He is a Narc. Probably jealous that your child is getting attention in the hospital. These people think we swallow their empathy. What a facade, what a jerk. The most compassionate thing he could have done would have been to leave you alone to tend to your child. But no, he had to get his energy out in front of you. Seriously, what could he do to help? Name one real thing he could do that wouldn't have a price for you to pay. STay away from him and his false "kindness". He is the same turd that made you find us here. He was a wet turd when you went nc. Now he is a dry turd. Leave him alone until he turns into a dusty turd and blows away in the hot empty air passed over his vocal chords when he is telling someone what a great compassionate man he is!!! ds
Jan 7 - 1AM (Reply to #4)
Tigerlily
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Lol!

I love it, DS - wet turd, dry turd, dusty turd. Stages of development in the life of a narc! Very funny, and very true.