Have you read the books? It is all about him and the Path Forward? Part of recovery from a Narcissist is to educate yourself and learn just exactly what a N is.
My second question is are you reading the posts? There are many examples in the posts as to exactly what happens when members have gone back.
If you want to get YOU better and avoid this horror in your life ever happening again, you need to do the work for yourself. We can answer every question as they pop up in your head and this is fine, however you will never fully understand it if you do not do the reading yourself as well.
No he will NOT be more mindful of his or your injury. He will hold a grudge, lose even more respect for you, and enjoy exhibiting more control over you and punishment for leaving the "great I am" in the first place.
There are no winners with a PD.
God bless,
Goldie
Although I don't have first hand experience of going back, I imagine if the N even thought about his suffering it would only be to exact revenge on the person he lost control of (through NC).
It would merely be a game of control. Can they be mindful? - calculating yes, for their benefit and gain only.
Thank you so much for all of your responses.
I must. Be stuck.
I have bought and read both Lisa's books, read Malignant Self Love, Wolf in Sheeps Clothing, People Of the Lie swell as Conquering CoDependancy and A Journey from Toxic Shame!
So I'm pretty much resorting to everything I can.....
I will not break NC.
I am scared to. Plain and simple. One, he is venomous and two, I can recognize now how weak I am around this person.
I also go to therapy.
Thank you SO very much for the reinforcement that it is just words from him. The main problem, which I would guess for everyone here is the same, is that what I say I mean and do....so I have trouble when someone vows and declares things to me and also the crying gets to me too. I feel heartless. That's by far the hardest thing to do.
I have to tell myself daily they will say and do anything just to win or get control....and my life is not a game....
XxxX huge appreciation to all of you.....
Bgirl
My first question to this would be
I doubt
You got it
Thank you so much for all of
Bgirl
For suree....I'll just keep