Fear of them leaving
Fear of them leaving
I realize how this was a HUGE tactic of THE X. He kept me out of balance not safe to know he would stay and then used it to keep me in line. If I asked questions or showed my displeasure in something he would start to get an attitude and so out of fear that he would leave I would stop. What a prick. Im just getting clear about this this morning. Thats how my needs got shoved to the side. Oh my gosh Im just seeing this. I can see how he kept me small. The other day when he asked to borrow food I said you need to be paying for the kids food. 3 times he changed the subject, 3 times I repeated what I just said. Until he finally answered Im barely paying for mine. but what I relaized is that is a tactic he used, after he said it he sighed like GEEZ....... only problem is i didnt want him there so it held no power over me but before I would have taken that sigh as I better be quiet, or he might leave. He kept me so small. NEVER WILL I ALLOW THAT AGAIN. I am worth so much more
The worst feeling.. I have
nomoredenial
Yep...micro managing control freak and abuser
StbxN threatened
GeorgiaGirl...I too needed a home & that kept me with my CN...
I'm sorry
Thank you for your compassion GeoriaGirl...I lost my Mom too
NoMoreDenial...My N admitted that he...
Yes, nmd, there is no more denial about
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