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#1 Dec 7 - 2AM
Sea
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Dont go! Marry me?

The new guy (not my ex narc) waited for me near my office and cornered me. He heard that I have put up the papers to relocate on next assignment on ASAP basis.

He asked me not to go, he was in tears. He said we can get married! I was sooo offended. Bloody hell! YES the whole world knows my ex narcky DONT WANT me and REFUSED to marry me. YES SO? How dare he assumed that I will marry the next guy who comes along??

I told him COLDY - NO. And walked away without turning back.

He just chased me a week ago. Yes, we were friends for a few years but on a very casual basis. And not forgetting he gave me a dressing down because i rejected him.

Enough of such toxic man around me. I want to start all over again.... 48 hours to my vacation. I'm so looking forward!

Thanks for letting me vent here.

we are indeed Jerks magnets after leaving the N.

Sumiko

Dec 7 - 12PM
ReclaimingPower
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OMG that gives me the

OMG that gives me the creeps!!!! One of the first dates I had after the N before I went "into hiding" was with a guy I met on line. When I met him out, I was bombarded by everyone around me wishing me luck on the date. The bartender came over and gave me flowers from the guy and total strangers were saying we looked good together and wished us luck. UGH!!!!!! The guy was talking like we were in a relationship and had planned out the next month of what we would do and said he was closing his account and didn't want to date anyone else. I JUST MET HIM THAT NIGHT. Looking back, it's classic narc -- he got out of a bad divorce where she left him a year prior, he was in a severe depression, talked about another woman who was crazy about him and he had to break it off with her because she wanted more and he just wasn't into her so felt guilty having sex (!), and his finances were a mess. He also shared about his panic attacks and sleep issues. Then he jumped over to my side of the table and totally ignored my space. I couldn't get out of there fast enough; my stomach was in knots not understanding what was going on. And then the texts didn't stop. Now I see it was just another twist on what I just got out of only it was the "early days" with new eyes. SICKENING.... I hope your transfer comes through QUICK!!!!!
Dec 8 - 7AM (Reply to #17)
Sea
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Creepy guy

For trying to hard- they give us goosepimples instead of romance. And to ask me to marry him is a total nutcase.
Dec 7 - 10AM
Sea
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Text from new guy

My love. U broke my heart, u walked away. I didnt know how much i love u till u want to leave. Nick didnt treasure u is his loss. Leaving is not the point. Sumiko lets give ourselves more time. I am not saying u must marry me now tho i would love to. Stay, give us a chance. Ok? Oxxx
Dec 9 - 11AM (Reply to #14)
marisha
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OMG it is creepy..similar

OMG it is creepy..similar scenarios our lives in narcville are going through... post my break up with a narc my FINALLY ex male friend (!) Married - approached me with similar propositions and notes and letters with similar fashion... i couldn't run fast enough..finally i just stop replying and honoring his meeting requests and his emails... NC to him as well.. this was all too disturbing.. Best of Luck Sumico on your transfer, and pls be relaxed and get strong on your vacation. m.
Dec 9 - 8PM (Reply to #15)
Sea
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Hi Marisha, goodness they are

Hi Marisha, goodness they are freaks! Luckily we dont have any feelings for them. Saves us the agony. Thanks! I am now packing for my vacation.
Dec 7 - 11AM (Reply to #12)
Goldie
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They all want what they cannot have

Yadda yadda, please don't go I love you so. Get me a tissue. Thank God you are out of there soon. God bless, Goldie
Dec 8 - 7AM (Reply to #13)
Sea
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Goldie, i even suspect the

Goldie, i even suspect the reason for him to chase me hard is also because i am ex narcky's ex. It would be like a good win against narc. Just my gut feelings. Anyway i see his real self so early, to push him away is easy and painless for me.
Dec 7 - 10AM (Reply to #8)
Hunter
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OMG!! Which one is more

OMG!! Which one is more nuts?? Toss a coin.. Respond if you don't stop I'm reporting you! Hunter
Dec 8 - 7AM (Reply to #9)
Sea
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Hunter- he pester me again

Hunter- he pester me again today. I told him to go away. He said he will chase me till i complain to the HR. He doesnt care! Tossed the coin this guy is crazier than narc. I think he is a BPD.
Dec 8 - 7AM (Reply to #10)
Hunter
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So go to HR.. This is crazy..

So go to HR.. This is crazy.. My guess is your not the first one to report him. Hunter
Dec 8 - 8AM (Reply to #11)
Sea
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Of cos i wont be his first

Of cos i wont be his first victim. More like i am number 10,000. Counting from his home town to here. I would just ignore him. 2 weeks vacation in 24 hrs. Maybe after 2 weeks he has moved om to new target! LOL
Dec 7 - 10AM (Reply to #6)
Used
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WHAT A DIPSTICK...

WHAT A DIPSTICK...
Dec 7 - 10AM (Reply to #7)
Sea
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He is a lunatic really. He is

He is a lunatic really. He is deluded. We are NOT bf/gf. He chased me a week and 2 bouquets of flowers. I rejected him. He called and scolded the hell outa me. Then now he knows i wana leave, he wants to marry me?? He forget that we are not even in a relationship. Give US a chance? On what?? He's a complete nutcase. I didnt reply - delete LoL
Dec 7 - 9AM
Hunter
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I think your decision to get

I think your decision to get out of there is a good one.. My God.. You are right in the city center of Narcville .. Run... Hunter
Dec 7 - 10AM (Reply to #4)
Sea
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So far 2 jerks - ex narc and

So far 2 jerks - ex narc and this new toxic guy!!
Dec 7 - 8AM
Sparrow
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I can think of a better word

I can think of a better word than "jerk" LOL Stay away from him, he is toxic.
Dec 7 - 9AM (Reply to #2)
Sea
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Sparrow

LOL- i can guess- assclown? narc? Master bates? Oh i know he is a nutcase! He said we can get married! My god! I still cant believe he said that!! Maybe i look like "marriage deprived", "hungry for marriage"? LOL!