Is this guy a narc, you think? (advice for a friend needed please)
Is this guy a narc, you think? (advice for a friend needed please)
I need your help. Ok. I have a friend who started a ‘friendship’ with a guy. No dating, they have established a friendship. So, she’s telling me about this, and says that he ‘seems’ to want to take things to the next level. She says he texts and emails her throughout the day a lot. She texts back. They have talked sexually with each other. She says she is interested in him. She said that he won’t come out and ‘ask her out,’ but he gets jealous when she says she’s going out to dinner with a guy, etc. He continues to call it a friendship. She said he’ll come on very strong…say the nicest things…complimenting her…then, she’ll reply…and poof…he’s gone for hours. Then, she’ll text him asking what’s up…and he won’t reply. For hours. Then, he replies with he was busy, or was not feeling well, etc. She said I am tired of him coming on strong, and then I reply…and then he vanishes.
Today…she sent him an email saying they should just go their separate ways. His mixed messages are too confusing. He IMMEDIATELY writes her back, she tells me. Saying how he can’t believe she would do this…how his birthday is coming up, he thought she cared about him, how he shouldn’t have let his guard down with her, etc…
She replied to him…stating why she feels the way she does. He replies that he wants the ‘friendship,’ to not go away, etc…and that he wants their friendship to be carefree like it once was. Then, he proceeds to tell her about his work day…and what he had for lunch. Lol He said he was sorry for not replying right away…that he is either busy, or sleeping when he does that, and she shouldn’t think the worst.
Ok. She tells me all this and I’m like…narcissistic tendencies all over this one. She hasn’t replied to his last messages …she said to me…would it be rude to just stop replying?
What would you tell her? Thought I’d run this by all of you.
Thanks for the feedback all.
Get out early
aw i'm sorry this happened to
Deidre40
He's married!
The L Word...
Well, a lot has been said
empath and hunter...sigh, i
Dee
He sounds married or has
deidre40
UPDATE!
ok right there, i've got that idiot figured out
If she makes it about him..
sounds disordered. hope your
The guy needs to grow up...
PusH pull
Yes. I believe he is. If
UPDATE ....he contacted her...she replied....
"a lot of stuff to do"
lol I like your posts. Both
empath
deidre
adding onto this, i think the
Let's say this scenario is a
it sounds like he's already
I get the feeling that he's
anquilla
ok...told her not to reply.
It is funny what will jump