contact with N

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#1 Nov 2 - 5PM
AnotherPath
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contact with N

Spoke to my lawyer today and because we have children I have to have some contact with him. PUKE. Anyway, I thought of a thing that may be of some use to others with children. I expressed I will not talk or email with him. We are now going to have a book we write in and pass between the children on practical matters. I have specifically instructed nothing to be written other than children stuff and if at any time he writes about his life I will throw the book away. Still feels like too much contact for me and I'm flat in mood from it today. Also, the fact that he called my lawyer and raged at her down the phone and is sending her very angry emails. Just to think I have to send two little children there on alternate saturdays just doesn't sit well. I also got 3 pointless text messages from him at the weekend, asking me to respond.

Another thing, the children went trick or treating with him and have two bags of sweets in the fridge. I went to steel some chocolate and saw their names were written on some paper. Open the paper up and it's a print out of how much luggage you can take on a BA flight dated Aug. He obviously wants me to know he's been away.............. so transparent, what a prize prick

Nov 2 - 5PM
Barbara (not verified)
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AnotherPath

Time for some Psych Evaluations and you demanding SUPERVISED VISITATION. and do NOT let your lawyer try to talk you out of it. I hope your children have a therapist because the jerk will try to pass messages through them. Ns never ever listen to rules and believe they were made to be broken! ~~~~~~~~~~~~ My Abuse Information Site Online Coaching & Help
Nov 3 - 10AM (Reply to #6)
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He spent time in a

He spent time in a psychiatric hospital 16 years ago as he thought he was a danger to himself and his ex girlfriend. He was diagnosed BiPolar but who knows for real. Hey, what a huge RED FLAG that was staring me in the face that I just ignored and didn't give any thought to. If a man told me that now I'd be on the next bus out....

Ending the dance

Nov 2 - 6PM (Reply to #3)
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They came back a couple of

They came back a couple of visits ago and told me he said I punched him and kicked him when we were together. They both added they know he's lying but are too scared to say anything to him. He also tells them mummy is a liar. This week, he tells them he paid for the house (can prove I paid all the deposit and have done through lawyers) and that he paid for the car and he's taking me to court over the children again. He took my car at 4am and tried to sell it, but couldn't as it's in my name so I got it back. My children are 4 and 6, do you think they need professional help with seeing him and hearing his lies?. I thought that they just wouldn't believe him and so would just see him for who he is in their own time. I don't slag him off or particularly talk about him, I let them do the talking. I told my lawyer today that I can tell he is going through one of his particular rageful times right now, despite having a new girlfriend. I think it's because I'm NC and he just can't get through to me, even got my daughter call during his weekend with him. I had to just let it go to voice mail, so difficult hearing her little voice wanting something from home.

Ending the dance

Nov 2 - 9PM (Reply to #5)
quietude (not verified)
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children

"do you think they need professional help with seeing him and hearing his lies"? Think of what he's done to you, and you're an adult.
Nov 2 - 8PM (Reply to #4)
Barbara (not verified)
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OMG Yes!

My children are 4 and 6, do you think they need professional help with seeing him and hearing his lies? YES YES YES YES YES!!!!!!! Are documenting everything - sending to your lawyer immediately? This is all good reason to DEMAND SUPERVISED. This is not acceptable. He's USING the kids. That's unacceptable too. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ My Abuse Information Site Online Coaching & Help
Nov 2 - 5PM (Reply to #2)
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AnotherPath

Do you have someone else in your life who can speak with him when needed so you do not have to be broken down by him like this all the time?