It gets better, it honestly does
It gets better, it honestly does
We have all experienced it. At first, we are shocked, hurt, confused, devistated. After a couple days, pain sets in. A very unfamiliar pain, one you know nothing about. The physical and emotional anguish. It's almost unbearable and you would rather die than to continue feeling this way. You may have been blindsided or you may have seen it coming for some time now. Either way, the pain and suffering is no different.
We find we can not live without this person in our lives. We are all at this point,co-dependent. Some will admit it, others won't. We find ourselves feeling completely and utterly alone and have no reason to believe we will survive this. After a few days of deep depression, we conjure up enough strength to start surfing the internet to find out what went wrong, we spend hours, days, weeks, some months, and we all discover the same thing, not necessarily within the same window of time, but we all discover we are victims of a narcissist. We discover this site and are blown away by how many victims like us there are out there in the world.
We start our journey, with the help and support of everyone on the forum. We are slowing coming to terms with what has happened to us and accept what has happened and want more than anything to heal. We all heal in different amounts of time. The journey is longer for some than others. The journey is the hardest thing you have ever had to do and sometimes you slip and think you will never get through this, but you do. Or you will........
I write this, because I want to express to everyone here, mainly the new members, that you are not alone. Everyone on here has walked in your shoes. There may be differences in how you got here, differences in the relationship you are healing from, differences in the circumstances, but the one thing we all share in common, our path forward, our healing. With all the same hard work, we will all heal and come out of the darkness intact. Better yet, we will all come out of this new and improved.
Remind yourself every day that with each day that you are focused on your healing, you are getting better. Some days are better than others, but they are each days in recovery that you are able to put behind you.
One day, you will find, that you no longer need or want to put any days behind you. You will look forward to each new day with anticipation, joy, excitement. And the most beautiful thing of all, your days will once again start with a smile and end with a smile.
Life is good..........and all your hard work and devotion to your healing, pays off ten-fold. So on the days that it just seems a little too tough, and much easier to give up, remember that what you are giving up is a lifetime of happiness for a years hard work. Not such a bad payoff when you look at it that way, huh? So don't give up, the rest of your life, full of happiness and contentment, is just around the corner.
Follow the yellow brick road.............
You are all so very
Sparrow
i hope so
Grat Post, Sparrow!
brilliant post
Sparrow
Sparrow
Thank you Sparrow
Thanks indeed :)
Thank you, Sparrow
Thank sparrow
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Thank you for this. I needed