Fun and really LISTEN to what the guy says, i went on 7 dates with a guy and listened real well and he had mommy issues big time and asked very little about me, he had to monopolize the conversations, had a hard time turning down loud music and wanted to see me and other women, rather than us just getting to know if anything would fly, I ended it as he did not care about me that much, very self absorbed. you will know.
You're funny.. Follow your gut!!
Just have fun... In fact calm down or you may scare away the dude..
Good thing you can't take all of us .. He would run for sure.. It would be like he was a science experiment??? Hahaha!!
1. Do you dream?
2. What's your relationship with your mother?
3. How many relationships have you been in? Can I have OW #
should I keep going??
Don't do this just be yourself....
Hunter
I think a lunch date sounds fabulous and much needed my DLB friend...
I had a dinner date on Thursday with someone I would not normally go out with.
It was fun, great conversation, good food, lots of laughs.
Just have fun and ENJOY some normal grown up time.
I'm proud of you.
Rock on!
Xoxo
Enjoy! Relax! And expect the best, for you deserve it!
And make sure you leave enough time to get to know him.
And then, after lots of time and many meetings, you will know if you enjoy his company and want to be with him more.
No need to rush, you have all the time you need to figure this out. And I can assure you you will know the red flags this time - with or without list - for YOU KNOW THEM.
Remember: you are meeting someone - this is NOT a DATE yet!!
Someone had posted a link, and I found this very interesting:
http://www.hookingupsmart.com/2009/01/06/relationshipstrategies/10-ways-to-get-inside-his-head/
Thought it gives some good insights into more 'normal' dating behaviours.
Enjoy! Enjoy! JOY!!!!!
Ack! oh no, LOL. Most people ARE NOT narcs. Let me repeat: most people aren't narcs!
You know the red flags better than anyone. Just relax and enjoy the company and remind yourself: after all you've been through, you are wiser and more knowledgeable than most of the human race. You are truly in control now!
Good luck and have fun!
xoxox
D.
If the entire conversation is about him and there is no interest shown in you...or there's TOO much interest in you...RUN. But tell him you have herpes, first. (and leave him with the tab)
seems distracted by his phone...during the initial meeting or any follow-up dates. Smart phones are the NARCS best invention, they can woo multiple women at a time...IT IS BAD MANNERS TO BE WITH SOMEONE AND PAYING ATTENTION TO YOUR PHONE!!!!
also, if he hasks you to take pictures of him, only him - he send those to other women to make him appear interesting.
The ONE date I have been on in 14 months and it was with a totally neurotic Narc...I mean, this guy doesn't even make a pretense at covering it up...oh HELL no!
so I asked him point blank "What's with all the fucking drama already? This is date #1! Thanks for dinner, but I feel like I should be billing you for this therapy session...by the way, lose my number". He did, shock of all shockers! ;)
I love that I have the wisdom to spot these mental midgets now and more importantly, feel utterly repulsed by them, instead of empathetic. Co-dependent no more!
i agree with you there, i have no sympathy now for any shenanagins...if i think oh for fucks sake whats this about....that means i know whats it about....i will always be a co-dependant,its in my nature...the diffrence is now cos i know it.....ITS BUYER BEWARE...lol..
OMG I heard all about the "crazy Russian ex-wife", the frigid g/f he dated over the summer, the drama of running a business...
the m/f'r never once even asked what I do for a living. I couldn't get out of that date fast enough.
Oh and for the record, I don't politely excuse myself...I flat out call them to the carpet on the spot. Sick of this shit and people who waste my time.
The best red flag
needing2know,have
You're funny.. Follow your
hunter
You know what to look for...
Enjoy! Relax! And expect the
Ack! oh no, LOL. Most people
Have lunch, have fun, take
Oh no I'm not bringing him
If the entire conversation is
If he
Syren66
The ONE date I have been on
i agree with you there, i
OMG I heard all about the
Oh and for the record, I