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#1 Oct 30 - 6PM
Amazed
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Child Support

My N refused to pay child support to his ex,,are you kidding me!!!!

She is trying to raise 2 kids,,HIS kids on her one salary!!

She has them 6 days a week, every other weekend.

She has all the responsibility! Getting them ready for school, really raising them.

He only takes them out to dinner on their day off, buys them a shoe or a backpack, and call himself 'your old man'

It makes me sick that a guy would get out of child support.

It is so wrong.

Why doesn't she get the support she is entitled to?

Oct 30 - 6PM
Sinead
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There's ways round not

There's ways round not paying, or paying very little, my ExN pays not one penny! It's disgusting, then they have the cheek to send a letter saying the child's interests and welfare are foremost to him, errrm right and you wish them to starve right???
Oct 31 - 12AM (Reply to #11)
Amazed
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Just proves how evil they are

This very fact that they deny child support proves how evil and heartless they are. A father us suppose to be strong, a leader, their provider. How weak and lame they really are. Yuck!!
Oct 30 - 6PM
itreallyisabouthim
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Is there an official order

Is there an official order for support? If so, he may eventually have to pay. It is totally disgusting that men do not consider this their obligation, order or not. My STBX sees the kids 6 DAYS a week and he won't stoop to pick up a lousy pack of diapers, even when asked. It is amazing they can call themselves men.
Oct 30 - 6PM (Reply to #5)
Amazed
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Trying through the State

The States Attourneys are awful. It seems like they screw things up all the time. I do not know the best way to go. An N thinks they are above the law, above child support, above the judicial system, and do not have to cooperate. I think it is there for a reason.
Oct 30 - 6PM (Reply to #6)
itreallyisabouthim
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Is this the UK?

Is this the UK? Sorry, I don't know if the UK uses the term "state" (revealing my ignorance here!)
Oct 30 - 6PM (Reply to #7)
Sinead
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State not used in UK :)

State not used in UK :)
Oct 30 - 7PM (Reply to #8)
itreallyisabouthim
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Thanks. I know in the US

Thanks. I know in the US there are child support enforcement agencies in each state. They track down these men and make them pay by garnishing wages or funneling tax refunds to the mom.
Oct 30 - 7PM (Reply to #9)
Sinead
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In the UK we have CSA (Child

In the UK we have CSA (Child Support Agency), pretty worthless, they are supposed to chase the father to pay up nationwide, or take it out of wages/benefits. I know of soooo many women who are owed thousands as the CSA DON'T chase up, they are completely useless.
Oct 30 - 6PM
4joys (not verified)
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Because they only think

Because they only think about themselves. When it is in his best interest to pay, he will pay for a little while. Usually its easier for them to just move on to new supply. What he does to the mother he also does to the kids. They exist for his needs only.
Oct 30 - 6PM (Reply to #2)
Amazed
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No attachment to his own kids

True,,it is like he has no attachment, or sense of accountability to his kids. His needs, are always before theirs. It is so sad. He just makes props out of them.
Oct 30 - 11PM (Reply to #3)
Barbara (not verified)
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tried this?

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