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#1 Oct 2 - 6AM
freaked
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Root reason

can you believe this....that until TODAY i had not even suspected that narc's mother is a more dangerously malignant narcissist....

came across this blog via one of this forum member's post..and then saw this page http://house-of-mirrors.blogspot.com/2011/05/malignant-narcissist-death-...

it describes the lady 100/100.

well the old bitch is 80, and she is still as sprightly and stealthy as an immortal hyena.

ok, then today i have understood that it is mil who made my NH the wreck that he is. she did openly tell me that there was no law preventing her son from having another woman. she challenged me on this. and as i have no family or money to go legal..i just shut up and take the nonstop abuse.

she has manipulated her son to cheat on me, abuse our child, extravagantly waste money on whores...and starve wife and kid.

and this woman is such a showy religious person.. even i did not suspect until this moment that she was/is the ROOT OF THE EVIL

and the way she is going on..looks like she will live to be 150. and then...where does it leave me?

she drove her daughter to an early and devastating death. she is the POISON. but i dare not speak out about this to anyone around where i live.. nobody would believe the truth.

Oct 2 - 8PM
Susan32
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Thanks for the weblink!

Thanks freaked for that weblink. Here's another great blog post about Ns and aging, and it ain't a pretty sight- http://house-of-mirrors.blogspot.com/2011/07/malignant-narcissists-get-worse-with.html My Narc grandmother isn't the malignant type-she hasn't gotten great with age, but the malignant sort are far worse, like Scrooge. I've been dealing with a particularly nasty Narc (as a resident) at my nursing home. He follows his wife around (they're both in wheelchairs) When she wants to nap or be left alone, he follows her. He's punched his wife, other residents, and nurses, and it's been suspected that he was violent when he was younger. A miracle notwithstanding, MNs get WORSE with age.
Oct 2 - 7AM
uk lady
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Hi Freaked

I just wrote a long reply and then it disappeared. Duh. Yes, my ex-P's MN mother did absolutely all of what is in that article to him. No wonder he is a P - he didn't stand a chance. And yes, she enabled him to do exactly what your's did to you, to me too with respect to the OW. She has always played the little girl, butter wouldn't melt in her mouth act and it used to make me feel sick because I knew what she was really like deep inside. She is 66 now but still uses that guise when it suits her but equally plays the old feeble mother act when she needs his undivided attention to. Him and her feed off one another - that image makes me want to be sick right this minute. They are all vampires and hyenas. I hope that things get better for you soon because I know only too well it's not easy. Dee x
Oct 2 - 7AM (Reply to #3)
freaked
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Dee, you experienced this too...

oh no.. i can imagine what you are suffering. Thanks so much for your response dear Dee. I don't know if things will improve till that hag is still alive and kicking (literally too) her son is being duped by her, and he cannot see that. about 15 years ago i told him that his mother is toxic..and he went and spat it out to her..and made sure the woman set about to completely demolish me. Oh GOD please help.
Oct 2 - 8AM (Reply to #4)
uk lady
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Freaked

I am thankfully out of it now but it went on for 20+ years and she was always a bone of contention between the ex-P and me. And when I challenged him, he too went back and blurted it all out to her in one of their regular arguments - his way of releasing his tension with her. He loves her but hates her scenario. And of course, she is an alcoholic too. She was always jealous of me but dressed it up in little throw away comments which would obviously totally confuse me. I was such wonderful NS for her until I gained the knowledge and started to detach from her and leave her to it. I wasn't going to play her, or his, game anymore. I was told long ago that I would never be free of her until she died. And so many people have identified her as being overly needy of her son - read up on emotional incest, there will be lots of light bulb moments for you. She is like a squeaking door - it always irritates the hell out of you and you think, I must fix that, but then you walk away and forget until the next time you come into contact with it again. Sheer poison. So I know how it is for you. Keep strong and just have as little contact as possible and work on your personal boundaries as that's the only thing that helped me finally D&D both him and her. Big hugs. Dee x
Oct 2 - 9AM (Reply to #5)
freaked
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she freaks me more than NH does

Dee, until now i was thinking NH was the problem, but tracing the evil to his narc mother has shaken me badly. I am still a puppet here, no chance of boundaries. I did put up my fences few months ago, and it has resulted in her clawing at me even more wildly and shamelessly. it is a horrid situation.. just wondering if she will ever go 6 ft under??? she is a tough one..and has zero health issues.. if she lives to be 150...then what of me ?? what a sordid situation this is. HUGS to you too dear
Oct 2 - 7AM
uk lady
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Hi Freaked

I just wrote a long reply and then it disappeared. Duh. Yes, my ex-P's MN mother did absolutely all of what is in that article to him. No wonder he is a P - he didn't stand a chance. And yes, she enabled him to do exactly what your's did to you, to me too with respect to the OW. She has always played the little girl, butter wouldn't melt in her mouth act and it used to make me feel sick because I knew what she was really like deep inside. She is 66 now but still uses that guise when it suits her but equally plays the old feeble mother act when she needs his undivided attention to. Him and her feed off one another - that image makes me want to be sick right this minute. They are all vampires and hyenas. I hope that things get better for you soon because I know only too well it's not easy. Dee x