You Didn't Break Him...
You Didn't Break Him...
In the book "Broken Open" by Elizabeth Lesser, she writes that you didn't break them and you can't fix them. This is a truth that has helped me understand how the person I once loved was wrecked before I ever met him and no matter how much I loved him and tried to help fix him, it was never going to happen.
Personality damaged people are severely broken and they use "cracked" character defects to draw us unto them. We feel sorry for the little boy that was hurt and neglected. We are attracted to the man who has been misunderstood by so many women. We are certain that we can love him and understand him like nobody ever has. Unconsciously, we play the part of an emotional Florence Nightingale who will bind all his wounds with the bandages of compassion and absolute devotion.
We end up becoming a decaying mummy, wrapped in the cloth of his cruelty and entombed in a psychopathic pyramid that has been sealed shut. Our only hope out of this early emotional grave is to stop the delusion that we were special enough to have made a difference in his life.
yes
the little boy/girl
quietude
Same here
Wow. This is so true. I
Tjhankyou Shelley
thanks Ellen
Mine had a "Leave it to