Should not have ignored these statements from him!

The narc I was once associated with told me in a spiteful email, "a shrink told me once I have a way of demoralizing people to make myself feel better". Better yet "I wanted to take my daughter away from her mother and that would make her suicidal, and then i know I would get custody of her."

Let's see where this takes us .... I will tell you when I don't want to continue this realtionship. My partner always jumps when my phone rings... She is sooo paranoid. My ex wife always accused me of cheating and looking at other women...she was crazy My ex wife warned me not to hit on any of the mums at school. I see all the mums at school checking me out , they would love to b in your shoes ( god I'm an idiot!) " I see something in you, something wild and I can't wait to bring it out of you Have you ever tried cocaine, want to get high and go crazy together? As I an writing these down for the first time I am realizing that there were more than a few, it's so sad, I ignored my little voice inside. I have such a low opinion of myself, to want this kind of attention : (

The constant suicide ideation. "If you're so unhappy, why don't you kill yourself?" after my grandfather died. Telling his male groupies he wished I'd drop dead, or kill myself. "I love watching you cry" "I'm assaulting your innocence" "I'm controlling my feelings" "I will help you manage your emotions" "Go in the closet and find yourself"

this was one fight brett-I'm tired of you lying to me. Saying you'll stop accusing me of cheating and never going to get over it!11:52am brett-you're hopeless 11:52am brett-the million kisses meant nothing to you. the million i love yous meant nothing too. 11:54am brett-see...no care 11:56am my response? You are the one cheating and lying. You are the one who stopped calling last week. You are the one calling me names and being mean and hateful. You are the one that blew up my phone yesterday accusing me of lying and cheating. You. You called me a bitch. Hung up. I'm done trying to show you i love or come back to you. You are angery and bitter and mean. And i dont deserve any of this. 11:59am brett-True. I don't deserve any of this. ...'angery' is spelled angry. Get a dictionary 12:05pm brett- it's not manUfest. Its manIfest. An not a...When preceeding a vowel. Need me to keep going?...call me a cheater,liar, again. :p 12:18pm

Mine also had some red flag statements I'm sorry I can't give you what you want. I don't know what I am doing (with you). But, if we can make life a little more bearable (or something like that), let's enjoy eachother and the time that we have together. I can't give you the lifestyle that you are accustomed to. I'm not the easiest person to ger along with. I don't like to be accountable (!) I want to have some integrity in my life. I find it hard to lie (!) I'm a Rock Star! I have secrets! So many more, but I have blocked much of the BS out. I can't remember. But, I CANNOT believe all the crap I put up with. He was not kind, nor respectful - and I was his superior. It was a rollercoaster-insanity. I was used, used, used. Didn't see the red flags bc I wasn't expecting them.....didn't know these people existed! I believe HE WAS AWARE of what he was doing and was proud of his successes with women. I also believe that it is not enough to D&D, he aims to DESTROY (me).

I got variations of the same: *"I just want to make you happy/see you smile/everything I do is for us" which changed to: *"I don't make you happy" or explaining to others "Mega says I do, but she doesn't understand...I don't make her happy and she will see that one day"; also I am "young and deserve to be happy" which changed to: *"I can't be/don't want to be responsible for your happiness" or "I don't want to be responsible to anyone, just myself" which changed to: *"You are never happy/You can't take a minute to relax and be happy/we aren't happy/we don't make each other happy/you are never happy to see me happy" AND I also heard a lot of: "I'm so F*CKED UP in the head right now" - especially after any period of talking to me. She also insisted that she "just feels NUMB inside" and that she prefers and "likes it that way" - nothing in her life needs to change. IMAGINE HAVING NO EMOTIONS EVER AND JUST FEELING NUMB INSIDE!! I seriously got a chill when I read her note about that... When I hear people talking about the meaning of life is to "be happy" it still makes me confused/angry/disgusted and think of all the selfish and non-compassionate things she did in pursuit of her own interests of being "happy" at the moment. Argh! It's like they read lines off a script or user's manual!! xxx Mega

I got, "Why would someone like you want to be with someone like me? You will eventually leave me." Of course, he always said this when he was drunk. And guess what? He left me first. Because, as he put it, "I can't make you happy". He was probably right. Putting up with his projections, alcoholism and negative energy wasn't a very happy scenario for me.

I think we all had those unsettling and disturbing early glimpses of them that we shoved under the carpet. I remember mine describing himself as "a force of nature," and everyone else as "little people." In another conversation, I said something to the effect that healthy relationships are built on compromise and he snapped back, "No! There can be no such thing as compromise!" And then there was the way he talked about "us" in terms of himself: "You see (understand) me in some important ways." All about him, in other words.

Yes-- I heard the same lines, along with **I'm a brat. **I hate my mother. No I despise my mother. **If I haven't done something by now, I never will (meaning getting married or living together.)

He told me he was not "NORMAL or RIGHT IN THE HEAD" that he was "DEAD INSIDE" he feels "NOTHING" and has NO EMOTION and doesnt GIVE A FUCK...HHHMMM should have have ran for my life !! actually i did !!

" I am a selfish and arrogant asshole. One day you will see that and will be glad you didn't waste too much time on me." " I can show emotion without feeling it. " " I don't respect you. " Hi, my DLB buddy! :)