Thinking of leaving the forum

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Sep 13 - 2PM (Reply to #2)
needing2know
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Thank you , I am done with

Thank you , I am done with him for sure, I want NOTHING to do with him at all, I cannot begin to tell you haw much HAPPIER my kids are now that this man is gone, and I am too. I know I am here for me not him, I just read form a link on one of the other forums I will re attach it here , Everything in it is my EX! I have never in my life been in a relationship like the one that just ended, and it is just blowing my mind! I cannot get myself to comprehend this shit! Myabe bacause I have never lived this kind of nightmare before! i cannot explain what I am feeling right now.And it's driving me crazy!
Sep 13 - 2PM (Reply to #9)
Layla
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Many of us haven't lived this nightmare before either!

See? We have something in common! Haha!!! It is truly mind numbing!!!! Once it all starts to "click" in your mind, it is unreal!! But it IS REAL! Horrifying!!! To say the least!
Sep 13 - 2PM (Reply to #10)
needing2know
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layla

I swear to you and everyone here, if I could go NARCISSIST ON HIS ASS and give him back what he dished out and knew it would distroy him like it has us, I would do it! But THEY DON"T FEEL ANYTHING!!
Sep 13 - 3PM (Reply to #11)
Used
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needing2know

they feel NC..believe me, this is revenge ,without lifting a finger!!!!!!!
Sep 13 - 8PM (Reply to #20)
Unfreakinreal
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Used...

I know this is selfish and not the right mindset, but: Do they feel it? In my heart I would like him to have a taste of what it was for me. He has been texting, I have not responded (but haven't got to the delete before reading part yet...) and I hope to hell he feels a little pain. Correction - I hope he feels like absolute shit and has no one to go to. I hope he drinks himself stupid and passes out lonely and miserable. Day after day after day. I hope he wakes up in the morning and can't even look at himself. Sorry, very angry with his treatment of me today.
Sep 13 - 8PM (Reply to #21)
needing2know
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unfreakinreal,

Honey read the next three post down from here, let me know if you see THE LIGHT BULB GO OFF IN YOUR HEAD lol
Sep 13 - 3PM (Reply to #12)
needing2know
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Don't know how they feel NC ,

Don't know how they feel NC , they don't feel anything
Sep 13 - 3PM (Reply to #13)
Used
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needing2know

they feel beign ignored ,they are still flesh and blood..and as their whole life is about getting supply and trying to keep us in the loop...then of course they feel nc...beign ignored to people like them, is to them, telling them you never loved /liked them...they have become so unimportant in your life you cant even be bothered saying hi....dont forget ,how each and everyone of us made them feel so special...and to do nc on them after....guts them...exn to me is getting worse and more stupid the longer i have been nc...which is 23mnths...
Sep 13 - 3PM (Reply to #14)
needing2know
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Used

I understand what your saying about the NC but isn't that the same as the giving us the silent treatment? So if they Give us the silent treatment what do they care if we are NC? If they never end the silent treatment, they would never know we are NC, thats what I don't understand, the only way it would bother them is if they stop ignoring us and we stay NC right? HOLY SHIT A LIGHT JUST WENT OFF LMAO!!! THANK YOU!!!!
Sep 13 - 3PM (Reply to #17)
Layla
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BEST POST OF THE DAY!

Hahahaha! Love this! That's why we NEED EACH OTHER! Hahahaa......this was awesome!!!
Sep 13 - 3PM (Reply to #18)
needing2know
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All of you!

All of you are AWESOME! Don't know where I would be without you guys! Yes I do , but I'll be here instead lol
Sep 13 - 3PM (Reply to #19)
needing2know
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gatta go get kids from school

gatta go get kids from school lol I'll be back! thanks everyone!
Sep 13 - 3PM (Reply to #15)
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needing2know

SO GLAD YOU GOT THE PICTURE...LOL...YOU MADE ME LAUGH AS I SAW IT HAD DAWNED ON YOU...GOOD LUCK...SEE...YOU WERE MENT TO STAY HEREXX
Sep 13 - 3PM (Reply to #16)
needing2know
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Used

LMAO THANK YOU THANK YOU!! Damn took me long enough! You did tell me in the beginning you would help me stay away from this TAT JOB lol Yes I was ment to stay here! Damn I need a drink! lol but I don't drink lol
Sep 13 - 2PM (Reply to #3)
needing2know
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http://www.melanietoniaevans.

http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/articles/narcissism-understood.htm Even thought my ex never said really mean things to me, all the actions this post discribes it what he does!
Sep 13 - 3PM (Reply to #4)
spinning
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needing, sweetheart,

7 months NC is so early in this process that what you are feeling is completely normal, though it's impossible to describe to anyone who hasn't been through it. I have watched your posts early on and I know you are struggling with the fact that it's really over when you say it's over--not just because he's gone silent on you again. If I recall you've been back and forth with this non-committal N who treats you quite poorly for quite some time. You feel so crazy because what you became familiar with and accustomed to has changed. YOU'RE CHANGING IT BY CHANGING THE WAY YOU THINK! You do not need this person in your life. You do not need more days, weeks and months of feeling like crap and wondering what the hell is up with him. THAT STOPS NOW! You are taking your life back. You are the captain of the ship. Here is my suggestion. Read more. Read more of the blogs here, too. Flip back a few pages on Lisa's blogs and read the early ones about CD, crazymaking, obsessive thoughts, why you can't get closure, why they can't love, etc. THEY ARE EMPOWERING! I hope this helps, needing2know. YOu are so early in the NC process. The early weeks are very tough. I am glad I got through them and have that under my belt. The only way you'll get through it is to OWN IT! AND KNOW THAT WHAT YOU'RE DOING IS SAVING YOURSELF! IT'S ALL ABOUT YOU NOW. Not him. Just sayin. Sincerely, (not) spinning. AND SO VERY MUCH WISHING NO ONE WOULD EVER EVER HAVE TO SPIN OVER THESE DISORDERED NUTJOB FREAKS!

spinning

Sep 13 - 3PM (Reply to #5)
needing2know
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Spinning

it's only been 7 weeks sorry if I posted in months
Sep 13 - 3PM (Reply to #6)
spinning
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Good catch, needing!

I apologize! I meant 7 weeks. By seven months, my dear, you are going to be feeling much, much better! I promise you that if you stick to NC. Make it your NC. I know this guy will fish back around when you least expect it. I want you to be ready. Seven weeks is early, early early. Seven months is another story, and I can't wait til you get there. I hope you take everything else I said into account, needing. I want you to feel the liberation, freedom and bliss that I have today because of Lisa E. Scott's steps and this forum...and 10 months NC!!! Sincerely, (not) spinning. AND HOPING NO ONE WILL EVER BE SPINNING OVER THESE DISORDERED FREAKS!

spinning

Sep 13 - 3PM (Reply to #7)
needing2know
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Spinning

I will stay, and vent, and cry and be pissed off and do whatever i have to do, thank you all for being here for me even though we don't know each other, you guys are wonderful! I will do what ever I have to do to heal!
Sep 13 - 3PM (Reply to #8)
spinning
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I know you will needing,

because I've seen how you're willing to look at the reality of what it all was even though you are in great pain and confusion. That means you're strong! And smart! And you will prevail and feel good and then great! And we will be here to help you through the process. Ineed, you're doing just fine. Thanks for catching my typo! I'm sure I'll make many more but always know my intention is to wipe this freaks from our minds and hearts and if at all possible from the face of the earth! Sincerely, (not) spinning. AND STRIVING TO STAY THAT WAY!

spinning