Addiction
Addiction
Some of you may not know me but I have been on this board a long time now. This past year has been the most painful year of my entire life.
I was involved with the Narc some twenty years ago which involved alot of emotional truama. It lasted 5 years. I went on to meet my husband and began to live a normal healthy life.
until....
2 years ago when the narc resurfaced in my life and I can tell you this time around the Pain and my addiction to him has been far worse than round though this time He live miles from me. I have been completely psychologically addicted to this man for the last two years tho he quit speaking to me about 9 months ago.
I have been seeing a therapist and finally made a few months NC however I still continued to snoop but recently succumbed to the urge to make contact which of course I now regret. Every time he does something terribly hurtful. I am right back in the throes of addiction. Its almost as if my contacting him was a way of emotional cutting. My therapist has said gettinbetter you are very codependent and have a serious addiction and you have fallen into relapse. This is no different than addiction to a substance and you have to treat it as such. She said you have got to stop this. You are harming yourself. I must many times it has been compulsive.
It prompted me to get a book called How to get over your Addiction to a person. I must say it is a good read and really explains that your addiction to a person is related to childhood issues and attachment hunger almost like that of an infant. I always thought I didnt have childhood issues as my family looked like the cleavers. but since I have been on this personal journey I realize that I have had some unconscious issues with my Mother. I have always felt that the Narc was a mirror image of me. We always felt comftable with one another in a strange way what I have come to realized is we have the same abandonment issues his far deeper than mine and they have manifest differently. Mine has emerged as pretty bad codependence and his as a personality disorder.
Anyway for those that feel they are in the throes of terrible addiction. Its a good read
You know you have a serious
breaking free
gettinbetter- your post are my story too...
You rock!! You're
This all sounds familar to me
I had some withdrawl symptoms
Reading your post here, is like we are the same person
i too felt a total peace and safety net in his arms
Ifinnallygotit, this is the