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I got this email this morning

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#1 Aug 1 - 11PM
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I got this email this morning

I sent an email to the exwn yesterday asking for her new work schedule as that is the matrix we use to arrange our split custody. After giving me the dates of her work for the next couple of weeks she concluded with this, and I quote word for word...

" that is all so far the next schedule I make out I will cram more days together so it will be easier for us all. Just want you to know my life is much worse then it ever was before. The other side of the grass was all an illusion of some kind love that I thought was real. The truth is there is no one that can replace you and our one time family. You are a great person and I will always miss you. I really fucked up XXXXXXX (our child's name here) life by doing this and that is the worst part of all this. I will always and forever regret the crazy ass thing that I did"

We were married 14 years, and the green grass was the boyfriend who since has also divorced.

Over the past 16 months I have also heard from her things like...
My life is so much better than it was when we were together...
I feel loved for the first time in a long time...
He adores me...He really loves me...
blah blah blah

ds-The Narcness Monster rose from the deep this morning in the form of an email, only to be greeted by No Contact and No Response

Aug 3 - 3PM
michele115 (not verified)
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Good Job DS

Keep healing... Hugs!
Aug 2 - 7PM
strongblackcoffee
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Done Sourcing

I know how difficult it was for you to not react/respond. Yay you ! Coffee
Aug 2 - 2PM
Hunter
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DS

Well done, my friend! Click, delete, and have a zippity Doo Dah day! She is a piece of work! Hunter
Aug 2 - 7AM
Reddley
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Great job DS! The more of

Great job DS! The more of these posts I read... the more faith I have in myself.
Aug 2 - 5AM
58 and going strong
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Well done! This is the only

Well done! This is the only way. Have a happy!!!! day!
Aug 2 - 2AM
Sparrow
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Awesome job! You should be

Awesome job! You should be very proud!
Aug 2 - 12AM
lillymarch
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Great job!

I'm dealing with a similar situation and haven't been that good at not getting plugged right back into the drama. Don't they see how crazy they look and sound? How are you staying so strong? Doesnt it hurt when she says she sees her mistakes? Or are you smart and know that she can really be telling the truth? Their actions are what I've learned to watch, not to count on what they say. And I guess NC is possible with shared children. We're still working this out. Thank you and terrific job!
Aug 2 - 12AM (Reply to #2)
Done sourcing
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It has been and continues to

It has been and continues to be a big fat huge pain in the ass. Divorce and custody is hard when a "regular" breakup occurs, but this exwn takes it to new levels of drama, confusion, and pitiful excuses to keep making it all about her. All of my growth has come through huge pain. I get sick and tired of feeling the pain and finally try something different. My therapist worked me over regarding NC last fall, but I really got it after joining this site a couple months ago. Contact regarding custody and the kid is always appropriate, and does not count in the spirit of nc. But the responsibility is mine to limit the contact to these issues. She almost always tries to steer the conversations towards her personal agenda...it is solely my charge to not let this happen, and to not respond to her games. A tough business, and it is a big reason why I stay close to this site. Reading and posting here helps keeps me vigilant. ds
Aug 2 - 2PM (Reply to #3)
Lisa87
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Good for you DS

So proud of you, this board has been my therapy to get over my N. Is still hard, the NC, the dreams, etc. but thats why I still check out this site a few times a week. I have been NC since April and his b'day is soon and mine is next week, I know I won't hear from him as his mask came off and I talked very badly about him to his best friend and ignored him when I ran into him recently and that is the most evil thing I could do to him. I have built a wall around me....my wall and this board has helped me to move on and accept, forgive him in my head and be indifferent but knowing the good times we shared will not/cannot ever be more than that due to his Narcness. Stay strong!!!