Could Use Some Help Today
Could Use Some Help Today
I'm having one of those intellectual vs emotional moments and need some validation.
My "n" is also a client - long distance luckily. I have not had any communication with him for 7 days and communication for 2 months before then was sparse and unpleasant.
A discount was offered today on a product he had expressed interest in 2 months ago. So, I sent an email from my business account rather than calling. The email was very generic and appeared as though it had been sent as a bulk mailing.
His response, via email, was cold and biting declining the offer. I immediatley reacted to the email with that sinking, sick feeling.
I am still having a very difficult time with how quickly he became so cold and indifferent.
Unlike almost every post I have read, we were only together in a long distance relationship 5 months. We saw one another every weekend and communicated daily via email and phone calls, but it was very short-lived in comparison to the other relationships in these posts.
When we split up it was classic N from what I have read here. He over-reacted to an email I sent essentially letting him know that he was not fooling me. He reacted with so much rage I was shocked. He then projected all of what I now know is his "stuff" on me. Then he put our relationship "on hold" without any explanation as to what that meant. During the 3 weeks we were on hold, he went out of his way to start an arguement. I wouldn't bite. Finally, I couldn't take any more because I felt like I was going nuts! So I just told him no more, I was done, and he listened. Haven't heard from him since.
He toyed with me for 3 weeks. He hurt me, tried to humiliate me, and lied to me. If I had found this site before then I wouldn't have allowed it to go on for so long.
I was feeling pretty good until today. I expected him to ignore the email I had to send today. I was not ready for any response and certainly not the response I received.
I am just having a really tough time wrapping my brain around all of this. From 0-60 in a few months and then 60-0 in one afternoon.
bewildered
I like that quietude!
Thank You Quietude
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4joys
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Barbara
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