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#1 Jul 3 - 9AM
Scoop
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Deprogramming trauma bonding

Heres a bit more on Trauma bonding . Again it talks about cult deprogramming and comming out of an abusive relationship as being the same kind of trauma . It talks about how its so difficult to break free form our abuser as we have been programmed and brainwashed to believe that the person who gives us pain is the person who takes the pain away . I dont think brainwashing is a hard thing to do its not mystical in anyway , we talk about love and romance but when we really look at trauma bonding we can see its a pretty simple formular but very affective .
Happy Sunday Scoop x
http://eaandfaith.blogspot.com/2005/03/trauma-bonding-pull-to-perpetrato...

Jul 6 - 4AM
Sparrow
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Very interesting article

Very interesting article Scoop. Thanks for sharing!
Jul 5 - 5PM
fooled no longer
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hey, scoop missed you, hope

hey, scoop missed you, hope youre fine. Very Very true mine would do anything to see me in pain because if I felt pain I must love him.. so screwed up
Jul 3 - 11AM
gettinbetter
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Yes I have always thought

Yes I have always thought that the narcs see pain=love. That is why they enjoy our pain so much it makes them feel special and loved. The more pain they can make you feel the better supply you are
Jul 5 - 5PM (Reply to #2)
Smitten Kitten (not verified)
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I had to be awesome supply

I had to be awesome supply for him then. He knew I was very sensitive and wore my heart on my sleeve. He even said so and it's true. I have absolutely no poker face either. When I'm hurt, sad or mad, people know. I'm very expressive in my emotions and it was easy for him to make me cry or yell in anger. In the beginning, he thought of my display of emotions as passion and loved it. In the end, he thought of the same thing as too much drama. Unlike the OW victim before me, he said she didn't display much emotion and had learned to hide her feelings because of her abusive husband (also a Narc based on what I know of him). So where he wasn't sure of what she was feeling, he could read my like a book.
Jul 5 - 6PM (Reply to #3)
enpsychopedia r... (not verified)
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Yup--They love drama, except

Yup--They love drama, except when they don't. Then you have to be the ice queen, keep them on edge and then when they think you might be on the edge of dumping them, you become a drama queen again. They are just soooooo easy to please, huh? I got the same crap from mine. I was "highly volatile, yet passionate" Well hell yeah. I worked so hard at calming down and tolerating his mixed messages and lack of clarity. When he had finally gained my trust and i was easy going and placid, he dumped me! LOL. What complex little childre! they are! And they pathologize us!!1