Weird things your narc did....Chime in!

After all these years, I FINALLY understood why the ex-Psych prof was obsessed with "Shakespeare in Love." He was into the cross-dressing of Viola (Gwyneth Paltrow), his theory was that the Bard (Joseph Fiennes) preferred her when she dressed as a man. Now I know that the Bard dresses up like a woman when they put on "Romeo and Juliet." Yeah, I didn't know THAT aspect of the movie. He identified with the Bard.... but then again he'd parrot the line "Your father is paying me to please you" from Lord Wessex (Colin Firth) who marries Viola solely for money. He also liked the line "This is not life, but a stolen season." The ex-P also likes the scene in "War and Peace" in which Nicholas Rostov dresses like an old woman, his childhood sweetheart Sonya dresses like a mustached soldier, and Natasha as a hussar. He'd go on and on and on and on about that scene. He also liked the scene about Ivanushka, a member of the Godsfolk who's considered a man (she dresses&acts like one) He'd call me a slut whenever I wore a skirt or dress.... I once joked if he wanted to wear them, and of course, he took offense. He liked "Confederacy of Dunces",in which the obese masturbating Narc Ignatius Reilly rallies drag queens in New Orleans. Scholars have noted that Leo Tolstoy favored androgynous characters... so yeah, it makes sense.

After I left him for the final time, he came to my new apartment claiming to have found wonderful employment (all lies) and being a renewed honest loving person (more lies!) and that he wants to make it all up to me (hahahaha!)and that God has big plans for us as a family and then he promptly went on his knees and proposed. I laughed so much I choked! The look on his face... priceless!

Came home with a bloodied and gashed up hand. his story was that he got cut off in traffic so he drove the car off the road and punched the guys window and punched the mirror clean off! He did all of this driving my dads car! He still thought he had done the right thing and it was not his fault that he reacted this way. Also he got no fewer than 9 red light camera fines through the SAME intersection !! first 5 times in my car, last 4 in my dads! You think you would remember to slow down at that intersection after the first time!!

Dont know if I've already posted this- Sorry if I double up! He had to kiss me 5 times when he was saying goodbye. So weird 5 rapid fast dry mouthed kisses at 4am! Ugh weirdo

Weird? You want weird? Alright, well I posted a little while back about one N. This time, I'll tell you about my parents. "Weird" was having a father who used me as a cute, little prop, to look like the perfect father. But he was abusive, emotionally and physically, behind closed doors. I was largely discarded and ignored, unless he needed me, to make himself look good in front of friends or family. "Weird" was having a mother who absolutely despised me, and my existence. A mother who left me to rot, in daycare, for 12+ hrs everyday. She used work as an excuse to side-step being a mother. Plus, she absolutely could not be happy for me. She could not STAND to see me succeed in anything. She was downright blissful when she made me feel lower than dirt. She crippled me, for life. I wasn't prepared for adulthood. I didn't learn to drive until after I married, and my husband taught me. I had zero sense of self. I existed to make her happy. Which she never could be, unless I suffered. She alienated both younger sisters from me. When I'd mail gifts down for holidays, she'd find some excuse or another, not to give it to them, or why they were inappropriate for them. THAT WAS WEIRD.

Came home oneday to find some of my clothes messed up in the wardrobe. Among them a leopard print silky material wrap dress. Asked EXN about it, he said that he had tried it on thinking it was a jacket. Umm clearly not a jacket... He'd stretched the arm holes- he is 6'4 and I'm 5ft. To this day I still wonder about that one... If he wanted to try it on why do it when I wasn't home ? Why be secretive- weird Maybe he was a cross dresser haha

My ex-N was turned off when I was turned on. If I wanted sex, he did not. He said I "kissed like a guy." His preferred positions were on his back or on his side. He once said he liked the side position best because he didn't have to deal with "arms and legs and gravity." He would not perform oral (I did on him and he seemed to enjoy it). At first he said it was because he had a deviated septum and couldn't breathe! Then he changed the story to "my wife didn't appreciate it so I don't like to do it, it makes me uncomfortable." and it was always about his comfort. He was separated and getting divorced and talked all the time about his wife. He also talked about female friends and ex girlfriends, and kept it up when I asked him repeatedly to stop. He even called his wife on the phone when we were in bed! And he can't figure out why I dumped him.

My narc is so unbalanced and self centered, everyone was out to get him. We would patron regular eating establishments, (my dime of course) I travel quite a bit for work, so I always wanted our time together to be special. We would have certain places we frequented and the staff new us by name. Randomly during a meal or an outing he would become dark and gloomy wanting to leave ASAP!,, As we would get In the car he would start in on how they treated him poorly, didn't respect him or were making fun of him as I paid. Or may favorite, he spoke of how they all knew what car he drove and were hateful and jealous....(old ass sports car) He would be so upset, he would mumble the entire evening, well into the next day. I would try and rationally point out nothing of the sort transpired, the fed us, tallied out tab, took cash and we left? He would turn on me withhold sex, affection and usually break up with me. Of course nothing of the sort ever happened. I later figured each time someone had not placed him square in the center of attention and adornment, or if someone paid me a compliment, this constituted as poor treatment. Once a waiter said he liked my hair? The narc accused him of wanting to f me? Not quite sure how those jumps were made? If only things were that easy? Nice hair to naked? No mention or gratitude on how I spent hours on a plane, dressed to the nines, filled the house with food, cleaned, gave him spending money AND took us to dinner!!! Only, no one treated HIM "right"

After the first time we had sex... he went to the washroom to have a dump. He shouted to me with the door open. Now I can use the bathroom without closing the door because we've seen each other naked. And got very pissie that I wouldn't leave the door open when I used the toilet. Haaaa